Coaching practices for The Energy Audit as a Parent

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  • I keep trying to think and discipline my way out of feeling reactive and foggy, and it never works
  • When my kid acts out I lose it
  • The second my kid starts melting down I feel my own chest tighten and my patience snap, and I react from that heat
  • I keep working on teaching my child to self-regulate, but the same things tip them over every time
  • I know I’m running on empty but I genuinely can’t tell what kind of empty — is it my body, my mood, my focus, or that I’ve lost the thread of why any of this matters?

Practices that may help

  1. The Energy Audit
    Loehr and Schwartz argue that high performance is fundamentally an energy management problem, not a time management problem: you have four energy reservoirs — physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual — and sustained performance requires both spending and renewing each. The framework is a compelling clinical synthesis; direct RCT evidence for the four-quadrant model itself is limited.
  2. Treat physical energy as the foundation of all other dimensions
    Sleep, movement, and nutrition are not separate wellness items — they are the substrate that makes emotional, mental, and spiritual energy possible.
    The Energy Audit
  3. Refuse to energize negative behavior
    Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  4. Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
    A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
    Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
  5. Arrange the environment to support Green Zone states
    Predictable schedules, sensory comfort, and low transition stress make Green more accessible.
    Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
  6. Run a four-quadrant energy audit
    Map your current physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual energy levels honestly before intervening in any one dimension.
    The Energy Audit
  7. Build zone check-ins into the daily routine
    Asking "what zone are you in?" regularly makes zone awareness automatic rather than crisis-only.
    Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
  8. Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
    A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  9. Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
    Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  10. Name which burners are actually on
    Honestly assess how much fuel each of the four domains is receiving right now.
    Four Burners Theory: Making Peace With Trade-Offs

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