Coaching practices for The Examined Life in a New Job

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’m living by a whole set of rules about how life should go, and it’s started to dawn on me that I never actually chose most of them
• There’s a "this is just how it’s done" rule everyone in my world treats as gospel
• I’ve got a big move (or a new job) coming up in a couple of months, and I can feel it’s a rare chance to start fresh
• When I talk to people in the field they give me the polished official version, and I walk away no clearer on what the day-to-day actually feels like
• All my attention goes to what I’m earning, achieving, and how I’m measuring up, and almost none of it to what kind of person all that striving is quietly turning me into

Practices that may help

1. The Examined Life
   Socrates’ claim that "the unexamined life is not worth living" (Apology, 38a) means that a life lived without sustained reflection on one’s values, beliefs, and actions is a kind of sleepwalking. The Socratic method — elenchus — is a specific form of examination: honest questioning that surfaces inconsistencies and untested assumptions. As a practice, it overlaps with metacognition and reflective practice, which have genuine evidence bases, though Socrates’ philosophical claim is stronger than any psychological finding.
2. Conduct a regular examined-life audit
   Periodically ask: which of the beliefs I am living by have I actually examined, and which am I just inheriting?
   The Socratic Method, Made Practical
3. Question what everyone takes for granted
   Choose one widely shared assumption — in your field, your culture, or your circle — and examine it honestly.
   The Examined Life
4. Identify and anticipate upcoming transition windows
   Treat approaching life changes as scheduled opportunities for habit installation — plan before the transition, not after.
   The Habit Discontinuity Effect
5. Listen for what isn’t in the job description
   Focus on the texture of day-to-day work, not the official narrative.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
6. Prioritize the health of your soul above external goods
   Ask regularly whether you are attending to who you are becoming, not only to what you are acquiring.
   The Examined Life
7. Prototype with conversations and experiences
   Test a possible path cheaply — talk to someone living it, or try a small slice — before betting on it.
   Designing Your Life, Made Practical
8. Know thyself — map your actual values against your actions
   Compare what you say you value with what your behavior reveals you actually value.
   The Examined Life
9. Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior
   When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
   The Habit Discontinuity Effect
10. Treat not-knowing as a beginning
    When genuine inquiry leaves you uncertain, recognize that as a form of progress, not failure.
    The Examined Life

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