Coaching practices for The Gifts of Imperfection Before Bed

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • When I mess up I tear into myself in a way I’d never speak to anyone I love
  • When I sit down at night to look back on my day with God, I tend to jump straight to everything I did wrong
  • At night my mind either replays only what I screwed up until I can’t sleep, or it skates past the day entirely
  • I won’t put anything out until it’s flawless, so most of it never goes out at all
  • I lie down at night and my brain runs a highlight reel of everything I got wrong today

Practices that may help

  1. The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
    Brené Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection argues that a sense of worthiness comes not from being perfect but from embracing imperfection — through authenticity, self-compassion, and what she calls wholehearted living. The book’s guideposts come from grounded-theory analysis of qualitative interviews, so they are well-developed patterns from lived experience rather than experimentally proven steps.
  2. Practice self-compassion
    Respond to your own imperfection with the kindness you’d offer a friend, not harsh judgment.
    The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
  3. Become aware of God’s presence and give thanks
    Open the review by pausing, settling, and naming specific gifts from the day.
    The Ignatian Examen: Five Movements of Daily Review
  4. The Pythagorean evening examination (Hadot’s version)
    Before sleep, review the day in three questions: Where did I go wrong? What did I succeed at? What remains undone?
    Pierre Hadot’s Spiritual Exercises
  5. Let go of perfectionism
    See perfectionism as a shield against judgment, not a path to excellence — and set it down.
    The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
  6. Write three good things and their causes each evening
    Before sleep, write three specific good things that happened and — crucially — why each one happened.
    Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice
  7. The three-question evening review
    Ask three questions before sleep: What did I do wrong? What did I succeed at? What could I have done better?
    The Pythagorean Evening Review
  8. Cultivate authenticity
    Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and show up as who you actually are.
    The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
  9. Claim worthiness now
    Believe you are worthy of love and belonging as you are — not after you fix yourself.
    The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
  10. Cultivate rest and play
    Treat rest and purposeless play as essential to a wholehearted life, not as laziness.
    The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical

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