Coaching practices for The Ideal Performance State for My Teenager

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  • Some days I’m unstoppable and other days I’m flat for no reason I can name, and I have no idea what was actually different
  • I’m never fully on and never fully off
  • I know roughly what my best state feels like, but getting there is pure luck
  • Everyone tells me to get calm and positive before I perform, but honestly some of my best moments came when I was actually a little angry or on edge
  • I know the state I need to be in to perform my best, but I have no reliable way to actually get myself there

Practices that may help

  1. The Ideal Performance State, Made Practical
    The Ideal Performance State (IPS) is Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz’s term for the specific combination of physical, mental, and emotional activation at which a performer reliably produces peak output. The IPS is individual-specific — what energizes one performer paralyzes another — and is accessed through deliberate energy management rather than through hoping to "get in the zone."
  2. Map your personal Ideal Performance State
    Identify the exact mental, emotional, and physical conditions under which you perform at your best.
    The Ideal Performance State, Made Practical
  3. Oscillate deliberately between full engagement and full recovery
    Treat disengagement between performances as a skill to develop, not an indulgence to manage.
    The Ideal Performance State, Made Practical
  4. Build state-access rituals that reliably produce your IPS
    Design a repeatable ritual sequence that consistently moves you into your Ideal Performance State.
    The Ideal Performance State, Made Practical
  5. Expand the IZOF profile to include positive and negative emotions
    Map which emotions — not just anxiety — are functional for your performance, and which are dysfunctional.
    The Zone of Optimal Functioning: Hanin’s IZOF Model
  6. Build a zone-entry routine specific to your IZOF
    Design your pre-performance preparation to reliably produce the specific emotional state your IZOF requires.
    The Zone of Optimal Functioning: Hanin’s IZOF Model
  7. Regulate emotional tone as part of performance preparation
    Identify the specific emotional tone (challenged, confident, competitive, calm) your IPS requires — and practice producing it.
    The Ideal Performance State, Made Practical
  8. Accept your role (not its outcomes) as your commitment
    Commit to the role — parent, manager, friend, citizen — as a practice, with its obligations, not as a guarantee of outcomes.
    The Stoic Reserve Clause
  9. Determine whether your zone requires activation or relaxation
    Once your zone is mapped, identify whether you need to increase or decrease arousal before performance.
    The Zone of Optimal Functioning: Hanin’s IZOF Model
  10. Sportscast what you see rather than directing
    Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)

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