Coaching practices for The Ivy Lee Method After a Loss

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• Every time something doesn’t land I turn it into "I’m failing at this" instead of just noticing what actually happened
• I beat myself up over a call that went badly even though it was reasonable with what I knew, and I pat myself on the back for a reckless one that happened to work
• Even when something goes really well I brush it off as luck or good timing, so the win never actually counts toward believing in myself
• I lie awake at night with tomorrow’s undone work circling in my head, and then I start each morning cold, burning my best focus just deciding where to begin instead of already knowing.
• I only bother to plan on the calm days, which means I skip it exactly on the chaotic ones when I need it most

Practices that may help

1. The Ivy Lee Method, Made Practical
   The Ivy Lee Method is a simple daily planning routine: each evening, list your six most important tasks for tomorrow in priority order, then work through them sequentially without switching. It is a practitioner system with a century-old origin story and no formal controlled trials, but it operationalizes well-supported principles — prioritization, sequencing, and single-task focus — in a low-overhead format.
2. Use the performance-feedback loop without Self 1
   Treat every outcome as information, not a verdict — adjust without judging.
   The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
3. Score decision quality separately from outcome quality
   Judge the process you used — not whether it worked — when you review a past decision.
   Decision Journaling: Learning to Decide Better Over Time
4. Run a structured mastery debrief after each performance
   Immediately after any significant attempt, extract what worked before the memory fades.
   Mastery Experiences
5. Write tomorrow’s six most important tasks the evening before
   Before the day ends, write exactly six tasks — no more — for the next day, ordered by their importance to you.
   The Ivy Lee Method, Made Practical
6. Make the evening list a non-negotiable daily ritual
   The method only works consistently when the evening planning step is a fixed daily habit, not an occasional practice.
   The Ivy Lee Method, Made Practical
7. Low-point reappraisal
   Return to the valleys on your life line and examine what they gave you — without minimizing what they cost.
   The Life Line Exercise
8. Review process goal execution separately from outcomes after each performance
   Evaluate how well you executed your process goals independently of whether you won or lost.
   Process Goals, Made Practical
9. Reframing loss as transformation
   When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
   Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift
10. Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate
    A loss looks catastrophic in isolation and trivial across the whole portfolio of your life.
    Loss Aversion, Made Practical

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