Coaching practices for Check the Facts After a Loss

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• Even when something goes really well I brush it off as luck or good timing, so the win never actually counts toward believing in myself
• I’ve looked at it from every angle and I still can’t tell whether I’m genuinely being wronged here or whether my reaction is way bigger than the situation deserves
• When I try to reassure myself I’m actually good at this, I come up empty
• My mind keeps stacking up every reason I’m right that this went badly, and I can’t seem to see anything that points the other way
• I beat myself up over a call that went badly even though it was reasonable with what I knew, and I pat myself on the back for a reckless one that happened to work

Practices that may help

1. Run a structured mastery debrief after each performance
   Immediately after any significant attempt, extract what worked before the memory fades.
   Mastery Experiences
2. Check the Facts, Made Practical
   "Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
3. Ask whether the emotion fits the facts
   After checking, decide whether your emotion is warranted by the actual facts — not the interpretation.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
4. Keep an evidence log
   Record concrete proof of your competence to counter the brain’s habit of discounting it.
   Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Made Practical
5. Examine the evidence for and against
   Systematically list what supports your interpretation and what doesn’t — like a fair-minded lawyer, not a prosecutor.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
6. Score decision quality separately from outcome quality
   Judge the process you used — not whether it worked — when you review a past decision.
   Decision Journaling: Learning to Decide Better Over Time
7. Decide on a regulation strategy based on what the facts actually show
   Use the outcome of checking the facts to choose the right next step — not the same step every time.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
8. Apply the AAR to successes, not only setbacks
   Reviewing what actually caused a win produces replicable insight; reviewing only failures produces only loss-avoidance.
   After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
9. Study the gap between prediction and result with honesty
   Compare what you expected to what happened, and resist the urge to explain the gap away.
   Plan–Do–Study–Act: Deming’s Loop for Personal Improvement
10. Review process goal execution separately from outcomes after each performance
    Evaluate how well you executed your process goals independently of whether you won or lost.
    Process Goals, Made Practical

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