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- Something blew up my plans and I’ve just been stewing in how unfair it is
- I always blame the lack of time or the circumstances, but honestly something in me keeps stopping me
- I report that I missed it, we both nod, and then I go hit the exact same wall next week
- I’ve thought this problem to death from every angle and I’m still frozen, waiting for the perfect plan before I move
- I get genuinely fired up about a goal and then keep falling at the exact same internal hurdle
Practices that may help
- Find the advantage inside the obstacle
Ask what this obstacle makes possible that nothing else would — the way through is often in it.
The Obstacle Is the Way, in Practice - The Obstacle Is the Way, in Practice
Ryan Holiday repackages Stoicism into a three-part discipline for turning obstacles into advantage: control your perception of the problem, take deliberate action on it, and use your will to endure what you can’t change. The practices are modern framings of ancient Stoic moves, so their strongest support is the same — the lineage into cognitive reappraisal and the studied benefits of reframing and action. - Obstacle — find the inner obstacle in your way
Identify the personal, internal block that actually stops you — a habit, feeling, or thought.
WOOP: Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan - Coach each other, not just report
Have your partner help problem-solve the obstacle, not only record the miss.
Accountability Partners - Take deliberate, persistent action
Perception sets you up; action moves you through — start where you are, with what you have.
The Obstacle Is the Way, in Practice - Map the obstacles: WOOP your life-crafting goals
For each goal, identify the most likely internal obstacle and plan your response before you need it.
The Life Crafting Intervention: Scripting Your Future Self - Reframe the obstacle as the material you work with
Ask not "why did this happen to me?" but "what does this make possible or necessary?"
Amor Fati: Loving What Happens - Identify the main internal obstacle that stands between you and the wish
Ask honestly: what is the primary thing in me — not outside me — that is most likely to block this wish?
Mental Contrasting and WOOP - Plan — make an if-then plan for the obstacle
Pre-decide your response: "If [obstacle], then I will [effective action]."
WOOP: Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan - Treat each obstacle as an opportunity for the discipline of action
When something blocks your intended action, ask what virtuous response the obstacle itself calls for.
The Stoic Discipline of Action
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Ryan Holiday repackages Stoicism into a three-part discipline for turning obstacles into advantage: control your perception of the problem, take deliberate action on it, and use your will to endure what you can’t change. The practices are modern framings of ancient Stoic moves, so their strongest support is the same — the lineage into cognitive reappraisal and the studied benefits of reframing and action.
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