Coaching practices for The Platinum Rule with My Team
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I quietly resent that people don’t communicate with me the way I need
- I keep walking into important conversations and just launching in the way that feels natural to me, and it lands wrong
- Everyone on my team is quietly playing for their own scoreboard
- I keep pitching my case the way that convinced me
- My team is buried under recurring meetings and reports that everyone privately thinks are pointless, but no single person can just kill them
Practices that may help
- The Platinum Rule
The Platinum Rule — "treat others the way they want to be treated" — is Tony Alessandra’s communication framework that inverts the Golden Rule’s assumption that your own preferences are a reliable guide to others’. It requires first understanding how another person prefers to communicate, receive feedback, and make decisions, then adapting your style to meet them there. - Disclose your own style preferences to others
Tell people how you best receive information — so they can Platinum-Rule you back.
The Platinum Rule - Identify the other person’s preferred style before speaking
Read how someone prefers to receive information before deciding how to deliver it.
The Platinum Rule - Align around collective results, not individual status
Teams fail when members prioritize their own visibility or department’s success over the shared goal.
The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, Made Practical - Match your approach to the other person’s decision-making style
Some people decide from data; others from gut; others from consensus — find out which before presenting.
The Platinum Rule - Run a regular team elimination review
Periodically review what the team is doing that no longer serves any current goal.
The Eisenhower Matrix for Teams - Adapt your pace and directness to the other person
Match your speed and how bluntly you deliver information to what the other person can receive.
The Platinum Rule - There are no bad teams, only bad leaders
The same people perform differently under different leadership — so start with the leadership.
Extreme Ownership, Made Practical - Set quarterly rocks — the three to five priorities each leader must advance
Each leadership team member commits to three to five specific outcomes to deliver this quarter.
The Rockefeller Habits: Scaling Up with Rhythm and Focus - Run a single weekly priority-setting meeting
Replace ad-hoc priority requests with one weekly meeting where the whole team re-sorts together.
The Eisenhower Matrix for Teams
Related concerns
- The Platinum Rule At Work
The Platinum Rule — "treat others the way they want to be treated" — is Tony Alessandra’s communication framework that inverts the Golden Rule’s assumption that your own preferences are a reliable guide to others’. It requires first understanding how another person prefers to communicate, receive feedback, and make decisions, then adapting your style to meet them there.
- Platinum Rule Decision Making
The Platinum Rule — "treat others the way they want to be treated" — is Tony Alessandra’s communication framework that inverts the Golden Rule’s assumption that your own preferences are a reliable guide to others’. It requires first understanding how another person prefers to communicate, receive feedback, and make decisions, then adapting your style to meet them there.
- Power Posing Revisited With My Team
Amy Cuddy’s original 2010 claim — that two minutes of expansive posture changes hormone levels and risk-taking — failed to replicate reliably, and even one of the original co-authors distanced herself from the hormonal mechanism. The more modest finding — that posture affects subjective confidence and behavior — has held up better, though the effect sizes are small. The honest take: posture matters, the original claims were overreached, and the useful practices are simpler and more defensible than the original study suggested.
- The Platinum Rule As A Caregiver
The Platinum Rule — "treat others the way they want to be treated" — is Tony Alessandra’s communication framework that inverts the Golden Rule’s assumption that your own preferences are a reliable guide to others’. It requires first understanding how another person prefers to communicate, receive feedback, and make decisions, then adapting your style to meet them there.
- The Platinum Rule During A Big Change
The Platinum Rule — "treat others the way they want to be treated" — is Tony Alessandra’s communication framework that inverts the Golden Rule’s assumption that your own preferences are a reliable guide to others’. It requires first understanding how another person prefers to communicate, receive feedback, and make decisions, then adapting your style to meet them there.
- The Platinum Rule During Conflict
The Platinum Rule — "treat others the way they want to be treated" — is Tony Alessandra’s communication framework that inverts the Golden Rule’s assumption that your own preferences are a reliable guide to others’. It requires first understanding how another person prefers to communicate, receive feedback, and make decisions, then adapting your style to meet them there.
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