Coaching practices for The Third Alternative Before Bed

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The second my head hits the pillow my mind starts up
• Every night before bed looks completely different depending on my mood
• By bedtime I’m still buzzing from the day and I get into bed wired
• I answer the last email at 11:58 and then expect to be asleep by midnight, and instead I lie there still buzzing in work-mode
• The moment the lights go out my brain starts running tomorrow’s to-do list on a loop

Practices that may help

1. Schedule a worry time earlier in the day
   Contain bedtime worry by giving anxious thoughts a specific earlier window, then postponing them at night.
   CBT for Insomnia (CBT-I), Made Practical
2. Anchor the wind-down with a consistent starting cue
   A repeated pre-sleep ritual — a specific tea, a book, a certain playlist — becomes a conditioned cue that induces sleepiness over time.
   The Wind-Down Routine: Engineering Your Path to Sleep
3. Evening yoga routine for sleep
   A gentle 15-minute yoga sequence 30–60 minutes before bed lowers cortisol and core temperature to accelerate sleep onset.
   Yoga for Stress: What the Research Shows
4. Build a no-work buffer in the final 60 minutes
   Closing work tasks at least 60 minutes before bed allows the sympathetic nervous system to downregulate before sleep is attempted.
   The Wind-Down Routine: Engineering Your Path to Sleep
5. Offload cognitive load with a bedtime worry journal
   Write tomorrow’s to-do list and any intrusive worries before bed — externalized thoughts stop competing for attention at sleep onset.
   The Wind-Down Routine: Engineering Your Path to Sleep
6. The Pre-Sleep Worry Buffer
   Use a 10-minute afternoon or early evening worry review to protect sleep from nighttime rumination.
   Worry Time: Containing Anxiety With Scheduled Worry
7. Write tomorrow’s six most important tasks the evening before
   Before the day ends, write exactly six tasks — no more — for the next day, ordered by their importance to you.
   The Ivy Lee Method, Made Practical
8. Pre-sleep trataka for insomnia and mind-calming
   A ten-minute trataka session in low light before bed draws scattered thoughts into a single point.
   Trataka: The Yoga Practice of Fixed-Gaze Meditation
9. Use 4-7-8 breathing as a sleep-onset ritual
   Four to eight cycles in bed before sleep reduces physiological arousal and supports the transition into sleep.
   4-7-8 Breathing, Made Practical
10. The Third Alternative, Made Practical
    The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.

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