Coaching practices for The Time Audit During Conflict

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• I finally tracked my time and now I’m staring at the numbers
• I came in hard because the situation called for it, but partway through the urgent part got settled and the other person clearly just needed to feel heard
• The second things get tense I snap into the same move every time without choosing it
• I feel busy from the moment I wake up to the moment I crash, but if you asked me where the hours actually went I genuinely couldn’t tell you
• If you asked me where my week actually went I’d just guess

Practices that may help

1. The Time Audit
   Laura Vanderkam argues that most people do not have a time shortage but a time-awareness problem: they underestimate how much discretionary time exists in 168 weekly hours. A time audit — tracking actual time use for a week — almost always reveals significant gaps between perceived and actual allocation, which is the foundation for intentional redesign. The method is straightforward; the hard part is using what you find.
2. Analyze your log for patterns and surprises
   After logging, find the two or three surprising facts — not the obvious ones.
   The Time Audit
3. Recognize when to shift modes mid-conflict
   The mode that’s right at the start of a conversation may not be right ten minutes in.
   The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
4. Identify your default conflict mode
   Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
   The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
5. Map your actual week to the four quadrants
   Track a week honestly and assign each hour to one of the four quadrants — the data is usually a shock.
   The Eisenhower Life Audit
6. Run a one-week time log
   Track every activity in 30-minute intervals for seven consecutive days.
   The Time Audit
7. Use Competing when speed or safety matters more than buy-in
   Competing — high assertive, low cooperative — is appropriate when the decision is urgent, high-stakes, and not open for debate.
   The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
8. Audit a week of time to surface elimination candidates
   Track how you actually spend time for 5–7 days before deciding what to stop.
   The Not-To-Do List
9. Use Compromising — but know its hidden cost
   Compromise splits the difference; it’s fast, but both parties lose something and neither is fully satisfied.
   The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
10. Use Collaborating when the relationship and the solution both matter
    Collaborating — high assertive, high cooperative — finds a solution that genuinely works for both parties, but it takes time.
    The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)

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