Coaching practices for Tony Robbins Core Practices During Conflict
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- Something’s genuinely wrong here and there’s no time to coax everyone to a comfortable yes
- The moment an argument heats up I either shut down and flee or cave just to make it stop
- I walk away from conflicts having caved again
- I came in hard because the situation called for it, but partway through the urgent part got settled and the other person clearly just needed to feel heard
- The second things get tense I snap into the same move every time without choosing it
Practices that may help
- Tony Robbins’ Core Practices
Tony Robbins’ method centers on deliberately managing your internal state — through priming, physiology, language, and focus — so that better decisions and actions follow. The practices range from well-supported (gratitude, slow breathing, mental rehearsal) to mechanistically plausible but thinly studied (incantations). - Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Use fierce self-compassion to stay in hard conversations
Stay present in conflict by meeting your own distress with compassion, so you don't flee or attack.
Fierce Self-Compassion, Made Practical - FAST: maintaining self-respect in difficult interactions
Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, Truthful — the self-respect compass for high-pressure conversations.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship - Recognize when to shift modes mid-conflict
The mode that’s right at the start of a conversation may not be right ten minutes in.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Identify your default conflict mode
Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Use Competing when speed or safety matters more than buy-in
Competing — high assertive, low cooperative — is appropriate when the decision is urgent, high-stakes, and not open for debate.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Transform the relationship, not just the issue
Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Collaborating (assertive and cooperative)
Work the underlying interests until you find a solution that genuinely meets both sides’ needs.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Choose your style deliberately
The real skill isn’t a favorite style — it’s matching the style to the situation instead of defaulting.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles
Related concerns
- Committed Action During Conflict
Stay present in conflict by meeting your own distress with compassion, so you don't flee or attack.
Use fierce self-compassion to stay in hard conversations
- The Action Method During Conflict
Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
Identify your default conflict mode
- Adaptive Conflict Management
The real skill isn’t a favorite style — it’s matching the style to the situation instead of defaulting.
Choose your style deliberately
- Choice Architecture During Conflict
Competing — high assertive, low cooperative — is appropriate when the decision is urgent, high-stakes, and not open for debate.
Use Competing when speed or safety matters more than buy-in
- Choosing A Conflict Style
The real skill isn’t a favorite style — it’s matching the style to the situation instead of defaulting.
- Circle Of Competence During Conflict
Warren Buffett and Charlie Munger’s circle of competence is the idea that each person has a domain where their knowledge is genuinely deep, and that the highest-quality decisions come from staying inside that domain — or clearly knowing when you have stepped outside it. The hard part is not identifying the circle but accurately estimating its size.
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