Coaching practices for Turning Toward Emotions

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The moment a hard feeling shows up I’m already busy escaping it
• When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
• When a big emotion hits, it becomes the whole world
• When a feeling takes over I’m just lost inside it, like it’s the whole room
• The instant something painful surfaces

Practices that may help

1. Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
   Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
   Emotional Agility, Made Practical
2. Mindfulness of the current emotion
   Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
3. Recognize aware presence within strong emotion
   When a strong emotion arises, shift to noticing the awareness in which the emotion appears rather than being swept by it.
   Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical
4. Name what the emotion is doing in your body
   Track the physical signs of the emotion as they move through — this alone reduces their intensity.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
5. Receive what comes with friendliness
   Welcome whatever emerges from the felt sense without judgment or urgency to fix it.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
6. Opposite action
   When an emotion doesn’t fit the facts or is unhelpful, act opposite to its urge — fully and wholeheartedly.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
7. Do the opposite action all the way
   Commit to the opposite fully — posture, voice, attention — not half-heartedly.
   Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge
8. I — Investigate with gentle, curious attention
   Bring kind curiosity to the emotion: Where is it in the body? What does it most need?
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
9. O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
   After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
   The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
10. Access and name the underlying attachment emotion
    Beneath the surface argument is a primary emotion -- usually fear, longing, or grief -- that drives the cycle.
    Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair

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