Coaching practices for Values Priming Dialogue
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I lead straight in with my pitch and watch people’s guard go up before I’ve finished a sentence
- I have to bring people into a hard conversation, and I already know everyone’s going to walk in braced for a fight
- I keep raising my important ask at the worst possible moment
- Right before a tempting choice my head gets loud and defensive and I can’t even see my own real preferences clearly
- I walked out of that sales pitch about to say yes to the "middle" option, and only later did it hit me that the pricey one they showed first was probably there just to make this one feel reasonable
Practices that may help
- Channel attention to the relevant concept before the ask
Briefly focus the audience on a concept that makes your core message naturally follow.
Pre-Suasion, Made Practical - Identity Priming, Made Practical
Identity priming is the finding that briefly activating a self-concept (e.g., "I am someone who values health") before a decision increases the chance of behavior consistent with that identity. Effects are real but modest and context-dependent; they are most reliable when the identity is already part of how you genuinely see yourself. - Open every circle by naming shared values
Shared values create the psychological container that makes honest dialogue possible.
The Circle Process (Kay Pranis) - Place your message in a context that evokes the right associations
Context — physical, digital, or conversational — frames how a message is received before the first word.
Pre-Suasion, Made Practical - Affirm a core value before a high-stakes decision
Briefly reflecting on what matters most to you before a decision increases the chance you act consistently with it.
Identity Priming, Made Practical - Pre-Suasion, Made Practical
Pre-suasion, Robert Cialdini’s term, is the practice of directing attention to a concept or feeling immediately before a message so that the audience is primed to receive it favorably. The core finding is that what people are thinking about just before a message reshapes how they interpret it — making the moment before you speak as important as the message itself. - Recognize when contrast is being used on you
Awareness of the contrast principle is the antidote — evaluate options against an independent standard, not the presented sequence.
The Contrast Principle, Made Practical - Create a privileged moment — a context of undivided focus
Secure genuine attention before delivering your most important message.
Pre-Suasion, Made Practical - Prime your identity with environmental cues
Place objects, images, or phrases that represent your desired identity in the spaces where the relevant behavior happens.
Identity Priming, Made Practical - Sequence information so the most favorable item follows the least favorable
Present a weaker option or negative context first so that your preferred option shines by comparison.
The Contrast Principle, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Attention Priming Persuasion
Briefly focus the audience on a concept that makes your core message naturally follow.
Channel attention to the relevant concept before the ask
- Identity Priming Persuasion
Identity priming is the finding that briefly activating a self-concept (e.g., "I am someone who values health") before a decision increases the chance of behavior consistent with that identity. Effects are real but modest and context-dependent; they are most reliable when the identity is already part of how you genuinely see yourself.
- Values Priming
Identity priming is the finding that briefly activating a self-concept (e.g., "I am someone who values health") before a decision increases the chance of behavior consistent with that identity. Effects are real but modest and context-dependent; they are most reliable when the identity is already part of how you genuinely see yourself.
- Environmental Priming
Place objects, images, or phrases that represent your desired identity in the spaces where the relevant behavior happens.
Prime your identity with environmental cues
- Identity Priming On A Budget
Identity priming is the finding that briefly activating a self-concept (e.g., "I am someone who values health") before a decision increases the chance of behavior consistent with that identity. Effects are real but modest and context-dependent; they are most reliable when the identity is already part of how you genuinely see yourself.
- Promotion Focus Priming
Briefly focus the audience on a concept that makes your core message naturally follow.
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