Coaching practices for Van Der Kolk Practices

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• My practice lives in a little window and the rest of the day
• I’m kind and openhearted with the people I already love and quietly closed off to the ones who get under my skin, and I’m realizing that warmth that only flows toward easy people isn’t really the practice
• I get fired up and do a big dramatic session with ice baths once, feel amazing, and then never do it again
• The second something throws me
• My feed is full of people swearing this fixed everything that was wrong with them and made them practically invincible, and I honestly can’t tell what’s real and what’s wishful

Practices that may help

1. The Power of Now, In Practice
   Eckhart Tolle’s teaching is that most suffering comes from compulsive thinking about past and future, and that presence — full attention to the now — dissolves it. The practical moves are watching the thinker, feeling the inner body, accepting the present moment, and recognizing the “pain-body.” These are experiential teachings; some overlap with studied mechanisms like decentering, but Tolle’s specific framing is not itself a clinically tested protocol.
2. Treat every act as an offering — however mundane
   The karma yoga practitioner does not divide life into sacred and secular — every act done with full attention is practice.
   Karma Yoga: The Yoga of Selfless Action
3. Always abide by the three principles
   Maintain your vow, don’t show off, and practise impartially with everyone — not just the people you like.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
4. Kolb’s Experiential Learning Cycle: Learning by Doing and Reflecting
   David Kolb’s experiential learning cycle proposes four stages — concrete experience, reflective observation, abstract conceptualization, and active experimentation — through which people convert experience into learning. The cycle is widely used in adult education and coaching, though its status as a scientifically validated model is contested; the core claim that reflection and conceptualization amplify learning from experience has solid practical and some empirical support.
5. Tony Robbins’ Core Practices
   Tony Robbins’ method centers on deliberately managing your internal state — through priming, physiology, language, and focus — so that better decisions and actions follow. The practices range from well-supported (gratitude, slow breathing, mental rehearsal) to mechanistically plausible but thinly studied (incantations).
6. Integrating it as a small daily tool
   Fold a brief, safe version into the day rather than treating it as an extreme ritual.
   The Wim Hof Method, Honestly Assessed
7. Practise with the unexpected
   When things go wrong unexpectedly, use that moment as the actual practice rather than a break from it.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
8. Separating the hype from the evidence
   Calibrate expectations: real, narrow effects exist; sweeping cure claims do not.
   The Wim Hof Method, Honestly Assessed
9. Develop second-tier, systems-level thinking
   Practice holding multiple value systems as simultaneously valid rather than competing for dominance.
   Spiral Dynamics, Made Practical
10. The Body Keeps the Score, Honestly Explained
    Bessel van der Kolk’s core claim is that overwhelming experience is registered in the body and nervous system — not just as a memory but as ongoing physiological dysregulation — so calming the body ("bottom-up") can be as important as talking ("top-down"). The broad insight that trauma shows up physiologically is well supported; some of the book’s specific claims and favored therapies are more debated than the book’s certainty suggests. These are self-regulation skills, not a substitute for trauma treatment.

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