Coaching practices for What is in My Control Epictetus

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’m pouring all my energy into things I can’t actually control
• I want things I can’t make happen
• I’ve quietly decided I need this to go a certain way
• I throw everything into a plan and then it gets blocked by something outside me, and I take it as a personal defeat that flattens me
• One offhand remark or someone’s disapproval can hijack my whole mood for days, because somewhere I’ve made my sense of being okay depend on whether other people approve of me

Practices that may help

1. Sort what is up to you
   Epictetus’ first and central move: divide everything into what is in your power and what is not.
   The Enchiridion, as a Handbook
2. The Dichotomy of Control: Epictetus’ Central Lesson
   The dichotomy of control is Epictetus’ foundational insight: some things are "up to us" (our judgments, desires, aversions, and voluntary actions) and some are not (outcomes, other people, the body, reputation, possessions). The Stoic claim is that emotional suffering arises almost entirely from attaching our well-being to things in the second category. This logic is the direct ancestor of cognitive behavioral therapy’s reappraisal techniques, which are among the best-supported tools in clinical psychology.
3. Apply the dichotomy of control to your desires
   Before each want, ask: is the object of this desire in my power, or outside it?
   The Stoic Discipline of Desire
4. Discipline desire and aversion
   Want only what’s up to you, and be averse only to what’s up to you — then you can’t be thwarted.
   The Enchiridion, as a Handbook
5. Act with the reserve clause
   Commit fully to your plan, but add "fate permitting" — so a blocked outcome doesn’t break you.
   The Enchiridion, as a Handbook
6. Let go of others’ opinions of you
   Another’s contempt is their judgment, not your business; only your own conduct is yours to mind.
   The Enchiridion, as a Handbook
7. The dichotomy-of-control check
   Before reacting to any event, sort it: "Is this in my control, or not?"
   The Stoic Daily Review
8. Identify the single most important lever you actually have
   When you can’t control the outcome, find the one action that most expands the probability of success.
   The Dichotomy of Control: Epictetus’ Central Lesson
9. The Enchiridion, as a Handbook
   The Enchiridion ("handbook") is Epictetus’ compressed field manual for living: its master move is sorting what is up to you (your judgments, desires, and actions) from what is not (everything else), then training your assent so you respond to impressions instead of being yanked by them. Its strongest empirical support is the direct line from this control-and-appraisal logic into cognitive behavioral therapy.
10. Play your role well
    You’re an actor in a play whose part is assigned; your only job is to play it well.
    The Enchiridion, as a Handbook

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