Coaching practices for What is in My Control List

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For What is in My Control List, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I lie awake churning over one big looming thing
• My worry about this whole situation is one tangled knot where the parts I could actually do something about and the parts that are completely out of my hands are all fused together, so I spin on all of it at once and act on none of it.
• In the moment someone asks me to take something on, my priorities are nowhere in sight
• I open my laptop and the inbox instantly hijacks my whole day
• At work I’m capable and on top of things, but around my health (or my money, or my relationships) I feel completely at the mercy of whatever happens

Practices that may help

1. The control sort
   For any stressor, explicitly list what is up to you and what is not — then put all attention on the first list.
   The Dichotomy of Control: Epictetus’ Central Lesson
2. Sort the situation into controllables and uncontrollables
   Split any stressful situation into what you can influence and what you can’t, then act only on the first list.
   Locus of Control: Building a Sense of Agency
3. Keep your Focus List physically visible
   Post your top 5 somewhere unavoidable so every new request gets evaluated against them.
   Warren Buffett’s Two-List Strategy
4. Name one most-important task each morning
   Each day, identify the single item from your Focus List that most needs to move forward today.
   Warren Buffett’s Two-List Strategy
5. Map your locus of control by domain
   Notice that you may feel agentic at work but helpless in health — and target the weak domains specifically.
   Locus of Control: Building a Sense of Agency
6. Write and commit to a standing not-to-do list
   Turn elimination candidates into an explicit, reviewed list of permanent refusals.
   The Not-To-Do List
7. Reduce cues for competing behaviors during focused periods
   Your focus is partly controlled by what stimuli are in your environment — reducing competing cues protects target behaviors.
   Stimulus Control, Made Practical
8. The ABCDE prioritization method
   Label every task A (must), B (should), C (nice), D (delegate), or E (eliminate) before starting.
   Eat That Frog, Made Practical
9. Habit 1: Be proactive
   Take responsibility for your responses; act on what you can control, not on what happens to you.
   The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Made Practical
10. Use the time to remove blockers
    Ask what’s in their way and then actually clear it — this is your highest-leverage move.
    Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical

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