Coaching practices for When a Feeling Grabs Me I'm So Deep Inside it That I Become it There's No Daylight Between Me and the Spiral I'd Know Exactly What to Say to a Friend Going Through This but I Can't Get Even an Inch Outside My Own Head to Say it to Myself

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• When a feeling grabs me I’m so deep inside it that I become it
• Right in the thick of a panicky moment my head is all "why am I like this, what’s wrong with me," and the more I narrate it as "I, I, I" the more I drown in it
• When a feeling takes me over I become it completely
• When the harsh voice or the anxious spiral takes over, it feels like it just is me
• When I try to make sense of a charged moment I get sucked right back into it

Practices that may help

1. Add distance with your own name
   Label from a step back: "Sam is feeling overwhelmed" instead of "I am overwhelmed."
   Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
2. Talk to yourself in the third person
   Use your own name or "you" instead of "I" when working through a hard moment.
   Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems
3. Notice the noticer: find the observing awareness
   Shift attention from what you are noticing to the awareness that is doing the noticing.
   The Witness Stance
4. Identifying your parts
   Notice the distinct inner voices and reactions as separate "parts," each with its own agenda.
   Internal Family Systems (IFS), Made Practical
5. Witness journaling
   Write about today’s events as if you are observing yourself from the outside.
   Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice
6. Make the subject-object move
   Turn something that has you ("I am anxious") into something you have and can examine ("I notice anxiety in me").
   Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind
7. Distancing reappraisal
   Step back from the situation and think about it as if you were an observer, or as if it were happening to someone else.
   Cognitive Reappraisal vs. Suppression, Made Practical
8. Self-kindness: offer yourself what a good friend would
   Say the words a caring friend would say — to yourself, now.
   The Self-Compassion Break
9. Find a handle word or image
   Let a word, phrase, or image arise from the felt sense — not the other way around.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
10. Do the discovery with a partner
    Have someone listen for the themes you can’t hear in your own stories.
    Find Your Why, Made Practical

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