Coaching practices for When a Feeling Grabs Me I Become it I Am Furious I'm Just Not a Leader and it Runs Me From the Inside Without My Ever Getting to Look at it I Want to Be Able to Hold it Out in Front of Me and Ask Where it Even Came From

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• When a feeling grabs me I become it
• When a feeling grabs me I’m so deep inside it that I become it
• I can feel the feeling and I’m not running from it, but I have no idea what it’s really about
• I just feel awful and stuck in this fog of emotion, but I can’t put my finger on what it’s actually pushing me to do
• Something is really getting to me right now and it’s running the show, but if you asked me what the feeling actually is I couldn’t tell you

Practices that may help

1. Make the subject-object move
   Turn something that has you ("I am anxious") into something you have and can examine ("I notice anxiety in me").
   Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind
2. Add distance with your own name
   Label from a step back: "Sam is feeling overwhelmed" instead of "I am overwhelmed."
   Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
3. RAIN — Investigate with kindness
   Gently explore what the feeling is about and what it most needs — with curiosity, not interrogation.
   Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
4. Identify the action urge
   Name exactly what the emotion is pushing you to do, so you can choose the opposite.
   Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge
5. Name the emotion in plain words
   Say what you feel as a simple statement: "I am feeling anxious right now."
   Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
6. Mindfulness of the current emotion
   Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
7. RAIN — Allow the experience to be here
   Let the feeling exist as it is for a moment, without pushing it away or feeding it.
   Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
8. Notice the noticer: find the observing awareness
   Shift attention from what you are noticing to the awareness that is doing the noticing.
   The Witness Stance
9. Accessing Self
   Find the calm, curious, compassionate core from which healing leadership happens.
   Internal Family Systems (IFS), Made Practical
10. Get curious about the feeling, not critical
    Ask "what is this emotion and what is it about?" instead of "why do I feel this way again?"
    Emotional Granularity: Precision as a Regulation Skill

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