Coaching practices for Even When I'm Just Typing or Driving I Catch Myself with My Shoulders Up by My Ears and My Jaw Locked Tight I'm Bracing My Whole Body for Things That Don't Need it Burning Energy Holding Tension in Muscles That Have Nothing to Do with What I'm Actually Doing
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- Even when I’m just typing or driving, I catch myself with my shoulders up by my ears and my jaw locked tight
- Even doing something as simple as typing or reading, I notice my jaw is clenched and my shoulders are up around my ears for no reason
- I only ever notice how clenched I’ve been at the end of the day when my shoulders ache and my jaw is sore
- I go through the motions of acting brave or calm but my shoulders stay hunched, my voice stays flat, and my mind keeps replaying the threat
- My head knows there’s nothing I can do about this, but my body refuses to get the message
Practices that may help
- Differential relaxation: stay functional while reducing unnecessary tension
Relax the muscles that aren't involved in what you're doing while keeping the ones that are active.
Applied Relaxation, Made Practical - Differential relaxation (rest unused muscles while working)
Learn to keep uninvolved muscles relaxed while performing a task — eliminating the unnecessary tension that drains energy and builds stress.
Edmund Jacobson’s Progressive Relaxation, Made Practical - Build tension-awareness check-ins
Use what PMR taught you to catch and drop tension during the day, not just during practice.
Progressive Muscle Relaxation, Made Practical - Do the opposite action all the way
Commit to the opposite fully — posture, voice, attention — not half-heartedly.
Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge - Willing hands and half-smile (acceptance through the body)
Use open posture and a faint half-smile to signal acceptance to the body, when the mind can’t get there yet.
Radical Acceptance, Made Practical - The body scan
Move attention slowly through the body, region by region, noticing sensation without trying to change it.
Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) - Addressing mental tension through the body
Recognize that anxious thinking produces detectable muscle tension — and reducing that tension can ease the thought spiral.
Edmund Jacobson’s Progressive Relaxation, Made Practical - The release-only shortcut
Once trained, skip the tensing and go straight to releasing tension on cue.
Progressive Muscle Relaxation, Made Practical - The heaviness exercise ("My arm is heavy")
Repeat "my right arm is heavy" slowly and passively until you feel a real physical sensation of heaviness.
Autogenic Training, Made Practical - Relax and release stuck energy
When emotion grips, consciously relax and let the energy move through instead of clamping down.
The Untethered Soul, In Practice
Related concerns
- When The Relaxation Body Mind Progressive Muscle Relaxation Mind
Systematically tense each muscle group for 5–10 seconds, then release, to identify and dissolve chronic tension your nervous system has stopped noticing.
Progressive muscle relaxation — using tension to find release
- Unnecessary Muscle Tension
Learn to keep uninvolved muscles relaxed while performing a task — eliminating the unnecessary tension that drains energy and builds stress.
Differential relaxation (rest unused muscles while working)
- When Autogenic Training Heaviness Exercise
Repeat "my right arm is heavy" slowly and passively until you feel a real physical sensation of heaviness.
The heaviness exercise ("My arm is heavy")
- When Progressive Muscle Relaxation Head To Toe Sequence
Move through muscle groups in a fixed order so no area of held tension gets skipped.
Work a systematic head-to-toe sequence
- When Progressive Relaxation Jacobson Differential Relaxation
Learn to keep uninvolved muscles relaxed while performing a task — eliminating the unnecessary tension that drains energy and builds stress.
- Ergonomic Tension Reduction
Identify the postures and positions that silently accumulate tension throughout your day and redesign them.
Check and correct tension-accumulating postures
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