Coaching practices for I Feel Completely Sure About This Decision Which is Honestly Starting to Make Me Nervous When I'm This Certain There's Usually Some Obvious Thing I've Stopped Seeing and I Want to Find it Before I Commit Not After
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I feel completely sure about this decision, which is honestly starting to make me nervous
- I’m about to commit to this plan and on paper it looks solid, but a quiet part of me suspects I’m too sold on it to see the holes
- I feel completely sure about this, and a quiet part of me knows that’s exactly when I’ve been most wrong before
- I’m about to commit to something big and I can feel that I’ve already decided in my gut
- I’m excited about this plan and so committed to it that I can’t honestly see what might sink it
Practices that may help
- Ask 'What am I missing?' before major decisions
Treat a confident feeling before a high-stakes decision as a cue to check what your competence map is omitting.
Circle of Competence - The premortem (imagine the project already failed)
Before starting, assume the plan has already failed and ask why — then fix it now.
Premeditatio Malorum, in Depth - Slow down on one-way doors
For irreversible decisions, invest in deliberation proportional to the downside — not to your confidence.
The Two-Way Door - Map the argument before you commit to a decision
Create a quick argument map as a pre-commitment check on major decisions.
Argument Mapping - Run a premortem before committing
Imagine the decision has already failed — then ask why.
Thinking in Bets - Test conclusions before acting on them
Treat your conclusion as a hypothesis and find one piece of evidence that would confirm or disconfirm it.
The Ladder of Inference - Log the information you wished you had
In every decision entry, write: what would I want to know that I don’t?
Decision Journaling: Learning to Decide Better Over Time - Watch for the signatures of overconfidence
Treat "this is obvious" and "I’ve got this" as warning signs, not green lights.
Metacognition: Knowing What You Actually Know - Log probability estimates before the outcome
Write down your confidence level and reasoning before you know how things turn out.
Hindsight Bias: Why Everything Seems Obvious in Retrospect - Consider the opposite
Actively argue the case against your first conclusion before accepting it.
Thinking, Fast and Slow, Made Usable
Related concerns
- When The Ladder Of Inference Test Conclusions Before Acting
Treat your conclusion as a hypothesis and find one piece of evidence that would confirm or disconfirm it.
Test conclusions before acting on them
- Overconfidence Before Decisions
Treat a confident feeling before a high-stakes decision as a cue to check what your competence map is omitting.
Ask 'What am I missing?' before major decisions
- When Argument Mapping Map Before Deciding
Create a quick argument map as a pre-commitment check on major decisions.
Map the argument before you commit to a decision
- When The Two Way Door Go Slow On One Way Doors
For irreversible decisions, invest in deliberation proportional to the downside — not to your confidence.
Slow down on one-way doors
- When Bayesian Thinking Think In Bets
Would you bet $100 on that belief at even odds? The answer often reveals the gap between claimed and actual confidence.
Translate beliefs into bets to reveal your true confidence
- When Motivated Reasoning Slow Down On Welcome Conclusions
Treat agreement that feels effortless as a signal to double-check, not a signal to stop.
Apply extra scrutiny to conclusions you like
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