Coaching practices for When I Picture the Hard Thing Going Well the Version in My Head is Always Smooth and Easy and Then Real Life Isn't and I'm Unprepared Because I Rehearsed the Comfortable Fantasy Instead of Actually Feeling the Difficulty

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• When I picture the hard thing going well, the version in my head is always smooth and easy
• I can feel something hard coming but I keep it deliberately fuzzy in my mind because looking straight at it is uncomfortable
• There’s a high-stakes thing coming
• I love picturing the win
• In the moment my practice goes smooth and I walk away feeling like I’ve got it nailed

Practices that may help

1. Rehearse the full scenario in vivid mental imagery
   Walk through the difficult situation in your mind — including the hard moments — and watch yourself cope.
   Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
2. Describe the difficult situation specifically and realistically
   Spell out the scenario you are anticipating — who, what, when — without minimizing or catastrophizing.
   Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
3. Mental rehearsal of outcomes
   Vividly rehearse the result and the process, with emotion, before you act.
   Tony Robbins’ Core Practices
4. Visualization
   Mentally rehearse your day and goals — the process, not just the outcome.
   The Miracle Morning, Made Practical
5. Stop judging learning by today’s performance
   How well you do during practice is a bad predictor of how much you will keep.
   Desirable Difficulties: When Harder Means Better Learning
6. Worst-case rehearsal (take the shock out)
   Calmly rehearse a likely setback in advance so it arrives expected, not as an ambush.
   Premeditatio Malorum, in Depth
7. Anticipate the obstacle before it arrives
   Rehearse what could go wrong so the setback finds you prepared, not ambushed.
   The Obstacle Is the Way, in Practice
8. The best-possible-self exercise
   Regularly write a vivid picture of your life going as well as it realistically could.
   Optimism Training: Building Realistic, Flexible Optimism
9. Confront the brutal facts — regularly and specifically
   Name the most uncomfortable true things about your current situation before acting, planning, or optimizing.
   The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical
10. Mentally simulate the planned behavior in its specific context
    Rehearse the action plan in your mind — visualizing the cue, the response, and the environment — to prime automatic execution.
    Action Planning

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