Coaching practices for I Beat Myself Up Over a Call That Went Badly Even Though it Was Reasonable with What I Knew and I Pat Myself on the Back for a Reckless One That Happened to Work I Keep Grading My Choices Purely on How They Landed Never on Whether They Were Sound

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• I beat myself up over a call that went badly even though it was reasonable with what I knew, and I pat myself on the back for a reckless one that happened to work
• I beat myself up over a call that went badly even though it was the right move with what I knew, and I let myself off the hook for reckless ones that happened to work out
• I made a call that turned out badly and now I feel like an idiot for it
• A choice I made blew up and I’m tearing into myself
• It didn’t work out and I’m beating myself up as if a bad result automatically means I did badly

Practices that may help

1. Score decision quality separately from outcome quality
   Judge the process you used — not whether it worked — when you review a past decision.
   Decision Journaling: Learning to Decide Better Over Time
2. Separate the quality of the decision from the outcome
   A good decision can produce a bad outcome, and a bad decision can produce a good outcome — do not confuse them.
   Thinking in Bets
3. Judge decisions by the process, not the result
   A good decision that produces a bad outcome is still a good decision.
   Expected Value Thinking: Deciding Under Uncertainty
4. Evaluate decisions by process, not outcome
   Judge a decision by the quality of the reasoning at the time, not by what happened.
   Hindsight Bias: Why Everything Seems Obvious in Retrospect
5. Review actions through the reserve clause lens
   After a disappointing outcome, ask: did I act well? If yes, the discipline is complete — the outcome is not the measure.
   The Stoic Reserve Clause
6. Reframe feedback from outcome to process
   After any outcome — good or bad — ask "what did I do well?" before "how did it go?"
   The Confidence–Competence Loop
7. Look honestly at your responses
   Face where you fell short and where you acted well, without spiraling into either.
   The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day
8. Run a structured mastery debrief after each performance
   Immediately after any significant attempt, extract what worked before the memory fades.
   Mastery Experiences
9. Review without self-condemnation — distinguish judgment from condemnation
   Name what you did wrong precisely, without story or self-attack — then close it.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
10. Review process goal execution separately from outcomes after each performance
    Evaluate how well you executed your process goals independently of whether you won or lost.
    Process Goals, Made Practical

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