Coaching practices for When I Look Back I Default to Everything I Regret and Fell Short on and the Genuinely Good and Hard Won Things I Did Barely Register I Want to Let Myself Name Without False Modesty the Things I Actually Did That Were Worth Doing

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• When I look back I default to everything I regret and fell short on, and the genuinely good and hard-won things I did barely register
• I showed up for something hard last week when I really didn’t want to, and instead of letting it count toward "I’m someone who follows through," I just blew past it onto the next demand without a thought.
• When I look at how I actually behaved today I can only ever do one of two things
• All I can picture is how much it’ll hurt if I try this and it blows up in my face, so I keep not doing it
• The moment I name something I did wrong it spirals

Practices that may help

1. Write the passages about what you are genuinely proud of
   Acknowledge, without false modesty, the things you have done that were worth doing.
   The Legacy Letter: Writing What You Want to Leave Behind
2. Thank your past self for showing up
   Look back at a completed behavior or commitment and acknowledge your past self for doing it.
   Celebrating Small Wins
3. Look honestly at your responses
   Face where you fell short and where you acted well, without spiraling into either.
   The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day
4. Weigh action regret against inaction regret
   Over a lifetime, the regrets that linger are usually the things you didn’t do.
   The Regret-Minimization Framework
5. Review without self-condemnation — distinguish judgment from condemnation
   Name what you did wrong precisely, without story or self-attack — then close it.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
6. Face shortfalls with honest sorrow, not shame
   Name where you fell short today without either minimizing it or spiraling into self-punishment.
   The Ignatian Examen: Five Movements of Daily Review
7. Balance the review with a genuine positive inventory
   List three specific things you did well today — not three things that went well, but three things you did.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
8. Revisit and reconcile your significant regrets
   Name your regrets explicitly and work through them toward acceptance — not suppression or rumination.
   Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy
9. Apply the regret minimization frame
   Ask “Which choice will I regret more at 80?” — people consistently underestimate regret for inactions.
   Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default
10. Begin with gratitude
    Start the review by recalling specific gifts and good moments of the day.
    The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day

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