Coaching practices for The Same Bad Behavior Keeps Repeating Because Whoever's Deciding Never Sees the Cost of it Land the Consequence Happens Too Far Downstream and I Want to Figure Out What Feedback is Missing and Get it Back in Front of the Right Person
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- The same bad behavior keeps repeating because whoever’s deciding never sees the cost of it land
- I keep doing this thing I hate myself for afterward, and it makes no sense until I admit it does give me something in the moment
- I tell someone what went wrong but never say what I actually want instead, so they walk away knowing they messed up with no idea what "right" looks like
- It’s always the same chain
- Something in my life keeps escalating and running away
Practices that may help
- Change who gets what information when
Information missing from a feedback loop is often more fixable and more powerful than adding resources.
Leverage Points - Map the short-term and long-term consequences of the behavior
List what the behavior actually produced — good and bad, immediate and delayed.
Behavioral Chain Analysis: The DBT Method for Understanding Problem Behaviors - Add a forward-looking request to SBI
Pair the impact statement with a specific, doable request for next time.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Interrupt runaway negative feedback loops before they become self-reinforcing
Negative behavioral spirals are feedback loops — once you identify the amplification mechanism, you can break it.
Feedback Loops and Behavior Change - Strengthen corrective loops and weaken runaway ones
Find the balancing loop that should be correcting the problem — and ask why it is too weak.
Leverage Points - Distinguish system causes from individual causes in the analysis
Most failures have system causes and individual causes; fixing only the individual leaves the system to produce the same result again.
After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning - Map the feedback loop
Ask whether the consequence feeds back and amplifies or dampens itself.
Second-Order Thinking: And Then What? - Identify the mistaken goal behind the misbehavior
Dreikurs argued that misbehavior is always purposeful — the child is pursuing belonging or significance through a mistaken strategy.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Trace second-order effects of inaction
Map what happens downstream if you defer — inaction often has compound consequences that are invisible at the decision point.
Omission Bias — Why Doing Nothing Feels Safer Than Acting - Identify the reinforcing and balancing loops
Find whether behavior is driven by amplification (R loops) or by correction toward a goal (B loops).
Systems Thinking
Related concerns
- Close Feedback Loop
Find whether behavior is driven by amplification (R loops) or by correction toward a goal (B loops).
Identify the reinforcing and balancing loops
- Close Feedback Loops
Find whether behavior is driven by amplification (R loops) or by correction toward a goal (B loops).
- Feedback Loop Information
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response.
- Feedback Loops Systems Thinking
Find whether behavior is driven by amplification (R loops) or by correction toward a goal (B loops).
- Feedback Loops Thinking
Find whether behavior is driven by amplification (R loops) or by correction toward a goal (B loops).
- Negative Feedback Loop Behavior
Negative behavioral spirals are feedback loops — once you identify the amplification mechanism, you can break it.
Interrupt runaway negative feedback loops before they become self-reinforcing
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