Coaching practices for Because I Usually Know the Answer I Just Hand it Over and Tell People the Next Step and it Occurs to Me They've Stopped Growing Never Having to Wrestle Anything Out Themselves Because I Keep Doing the Thinking for Them

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• The moment someone brings me a problem the answer is already on my lips and I just hand it over
• Because I usually know the answer, I just hand it over and tell people the next step
• My team keeps bringing me bare problems and looking at me to solve them, so I end up doing all the thinking
• I keep handing people the answer outright and they just bounce off it, but I’ve noticed when they land on the very same idea by themselves they actually run with it
• An answer pops into my head instantly and feels so obviously right that I just go with it, and only later do I realize I never actually thought it through

Practices that may help

1. Stay curious one beat longer before advising
   Resist the urge to give the answer for one more question — ask what they think first.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
2. Challenge with questions, not conclusions
   Multipliers give people a mountain to climb; Diminishers tell people which step to take next.
   Multipliers: How Leaders Amplify the Intelligence Around Them
3. Push recommendations up, not problems
   Require reports to bring a recommendation alongside any problem — it’s a delegation practice, not just a time-saver.
   Delegation Levels, Made Practical
4. Ask reflective questions instead of giving answers
   Questions that prompt self-examination invite the person in; directives keep them out.
   Psychological Reactance: Working With the Push-Back Reflex
5. Notice which system is driving
   Before deciding, ask whether this is a System 1 (snap) or System 2 (effortful) problem.
   Thinking, Fast and Slow, Made Usable
6. Break the advice-dependency loop
   When people come to you for every decision, it signals advice-giving is making them less capable, not more.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
7. Generation: attempt before you are taught
   Try to solve or answer first, even if you get it wrong, before seeing the solution.
   Make It Stick: The Science of Learning
8. Prepare for the questions a learner would ask
   Predict what would confuse a beginner and make sure you can answer it.
   The Protege Effect: Learn It Better by Teaching It
9. Challenge assumptions and invite new thinking
   Actively encourage your team to question old ways and generate new approaches.
   Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
10. Ask "And what else?"
    The first answer is rarely the most important one — "And what else?" pulls out the one that actually matters.
    The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like

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