Coaching practices for I Can Recount Exactly What Happened the Blow by Blow of What I Did and What Came Next but I Never Seem to Land on What Any of it Actually Says About Who I Am or What I Care About So the Retelling Moves Nothing in Me
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- I can recount exactly what happened
- When I go back to think about how something went, all I’ve got left is a vague mood about it
- When I tell people what happened it comes out as a flat recap
- I keep going over what happened wanting to actually understand it, but every replay just drops me back into reliving the hurt blow by blow instead of figuring out why it went the way it did
- The day they died still plays in my head in jagged pieces
Practices that may help
- Landscape of Identity and Action Questions
Use two question types to map both what the person DID (action) and what that reveals about who they ARE (identity).
Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You - Log the concrete experience immediately after it happens
Write a brief factual account of what happened while memory is still specific.
Structured Reflection: Kolb’s Learning Cycle in Practice - Structure the story as a transformation, not a summary
The protagonist (you, your customer, your team) should be different at the end than at the beginning.
Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical - Take the fly-on-the-wall perspective
Replay a distressing event as a distant observer watching from afar, not from inside your own eyes.
Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems - Retell the story of the death and its aftermath
Construct a coherent, detailed narrative of the loss — including your experience before, during, and after.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Titrate the story — tell only the edges of a difficult narrative
When a story feels too big to tell fully, tell only its outer layer — what you noticed before it escalated — rather than the most intense part.
Titration in Somatic Practice, Made Practical - Share the messy version, not the edited highlight reel
The over-polished version of your story creates distance; the real version creates connection.
The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical - Write a structured autobiography by life chapter
Divide your life into chapters and write the story of each — what happened, what you felt, what it meant.
Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy - Use concrete sensory detail, not abstract description
The details that trigger imagery are the ones that produce transportation — vague language doesn’t.
Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical - Map your turning points and what they changed
Identify the two to four moments that most fundamentally redirected the arc of your life.
Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy
Related concerns
- When Storytelling For Persuasion The Transformation Arc
The protagonist (you, your customer, your team) should be different at the end than at the beginning.
Structure the story as a transformation, not a summary
- Tell The Story Feelings
When a story feels too big to tell fully, tell only its outer layer — what you noticed before it escalated — rather than the most intense part.
Titrate the story — tell only the edges of a difficult narrative
- Authentic Storytelling Technique
The over-polished version of your story creates distance; the real version creates connection.
Share the messy version, not the edited highlight reel
- Character First Storytelling
Open with a specific person in a specific situation before you state your argument.
Lead with a character, not a point
- How To Make A Story Vivid
The details that trigger imagery are the ones that produce transportation — vague language doesn’t.
Use concrete sensory detail, not abstract description
- Loss Story Telling
The protagonist (you, your customer, your team) should be different at the end than at the beginning.
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