Coaching practices for I'm Walking Into This Knowing Exactly What They're Probably Thinking About Me That I'm Only Here to Lowball Them That I Can't Be Trusted and That Unspoken Suspicion is Going to Poison the Whole Thing I Want to Just Say it Myself First Before it Can Ambush Us

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  • I’m walking into this knowing exactly what they’re probably thinking about me
  • I have to make an ask that I know is going to land as self-serving or unfair, and I’m dreading the moment they think it
  • I’m dreading this talk because I know they’re already thinking the worst of me
  • I’m walking into this thing braced for a fight, certain that whatever they get is coming straight out of my pocket
  • I walk into these talks already certain I know exactly what happened and just there to deliver my conclusion

Practices that may help

  1. The accusation audit
    Say the worst thing they might be thinking about you — out loud, first — to defuse it.
    Never Split the Difference, In Practice
  2. Run an accusation audit before difficult asks
    Name the worst things the other person might think about you or your request — before they do.
    Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical
  3. The accusation audit
    Pre-empt their worst objections by saying them out loud before they can.
    Tactical Empathy
  4. Reject the fixed-pie assumption
    Stop assuming your gain must be their loss — most negotiations have hidden joint gains.
    Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
  5. Adopt the learning stance
    Trade "I know what happened" for "I want to understand what happened for you".
    Difficult Conversations, Made Practical
  6. Rule out mind-reading and fortune-telling
    Catch the two most common interpretation errors — assuming you know what someone is thinking, or what is about to happen.
    Check the Facts, Made Practical
  7. Set your target before you open — never anchor to their first offer
    Know your target and your walkaway before any numbers are exchanged, so their anchor doesn’t colonize your frame.
    The Ackerman Method, Made Practical
  8. Map the ZOPA before negotiating
    Know your walk-away point and estimate theirs before the first offer is made.
    Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
  9. Map the likely ZOPA before the first session
    Estimate both your own and the counterpart’s reservation points before you open, so you know what deal space exists.
    ZOPA: The Zone of Possible Agreement
  10. Set charitable interpretation as your cognitive default
    Deliberately adopt the assumption that people are probably doing their best given their constraints.
    Hanlon's Razor: Never Attribute to Malice What Stupidity Can Explain

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