Coaching practices for I Catch Myself Deciding Who a Person is From the Group They Belong to Before They've Done Anything and When They Don't Fit I Wave it Off as Them Being the Exception Rather Than Questioning My Read

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• I catch myself deciding who a person is from the group they belong to before they’ve done anything, and when they don’t fit I wave it off as them being the exception rather than questioning my read.
• When someone lets me down I instantly decide it’s just who they are
• I caught one snappish moment from someone and built a whole judgment of them on it, forgetting I have no idea what they’re carrying today
• Someone fits the picture of a type so perfectly that I just assume that’s what they are
• Someone goes quiet or doesn’t text back and I’m instantly certain they’re annoyed with me or think I’m an idiot

Practices that may help

1. Audit person-judgments for prototype substitution
   Check whether a judgment about a person is based on their actual behavior or on resemblance to a type.
   The Representativeness Heuristic — Judging by Resemblance
2. Catch the attribution error
   Notice when you’re explaining someone’s behavior by their character instead of their situation.
   Generous Interpretation
3. Remember what you can’t see
   You’re reacting to a sliver of their behavior with no view of the pressures behind it.
   Generous Interpretation
4. Look up base rates before forming a resemblance judgment
   Before deciding "this looks like X," ask how common X actually is in the relevant population.
   The Representativeness Heuristic — Judging by Resemblance
5. Mind-reading
   Assume you know what others are thinking, usually negatively, without evidence.
   Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
6. Override recognition and deliberate when the situation is genuinely novel
   Flag situations that don’t quite fit a familiar pattern and switch from intuitive to analytical processing.
   Recognition-Primed Decision Making
7. Notice the pattern without becoming it
   When you catch your type’s automatic pattern mid-stream, name it internally without judgment — observation interrupts identification.
   The Enneagram
8. Interrogate whether similarity is doing the work
   When assessing probability or quality, ask whether you’re really judging similarity to a prototype.
   Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question
9. Extend unconditional acceptance to others
   Apply the same anti-rating logic to other people — separating what they did from what they are.
   Unconditional Self-Acceptance
10. Conduct premortems on your past recognition failures
    Review cases where pattern recognition led you wrong to find the shared structural feature that fools you.
    Recognition-Primed Decision Making

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