Coaching practices for How to Judge People Fairly
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I caught one snappish moment from someone and built a whole judgment of them on it, forgetting I have no idea what they’re carrying today
- When someone lets me down I instantly decide it’s just who they are
- I catch myself deciding who a person is from the group they belong to before they’ve done anything, and when they don’t fit I wave it off as them being the exception rather than questioning my read.
- I bend over backwards to be fair to everyone else and then quietly leave myself out of the equation entirely
- I’ve quietly filed each person on my team as strong or weak, and then I’m baffled when my "strong" one flounders on something new
Practices that may help
- Remember what you can’t see
You’re reacting to a sliver of their behavior with no view of the pressures behind it.
Generous Interpretation - Catch the attribution error
Notice when you’re explaining someone’s behavior by their character instead of their situation.
Generous Interpretation - Audit person-judgments for prototype substitution
Check whether a judgment about a person is based on their actual behavior or on resemblance to a type.
The Representativeness Heuristic — Judging by Resemblance - Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others
Apply the same standards of fairness to yourself that you would to someone you respect.
FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships - Assess readiness task by task, not person by person
Rate competence and commitment for the specific task in front of them, not the person overall.
Situational Leadership, Made Practical - Check the story before you conclude
Ask what they actually meant instead of convicting them on your interpretation.
Generous Interpretation - Extend unconditional acceptance to others
Apply the same anti-rating logic to other people — separating what they did from what they are.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance - Track character, not just outcomes
Evaluate your decisions by who they made you, not only by what they produced.
Phronesis: Aristotle’s Practical Wisdom - Apply the double-standard check: would I accept this reasoning if it pointed the other way?
Test whether you are holding your team’s arguments to a lower bar than the other side’s.
The Scout Mindset - Seneca’s evening court — judge the day as an honest prosecutor
Review the day as a fair judge would: what was the evidence, what was the verdict, what is the sentence?
The Pythagorean Evening Review
Related concerns
- Judging Peoples Character
Notice when you’re explaining someone’s behavior by their character instead of their situation.
Catch the attribution error
- Is It Normal To Judge People At Earlier Developmental Stages
Have a more skilled observer set the challenge level — your own assessment is biased.
Use a challenge-calibration partner or coach
- When Generous Interpretation Name The Attribution Error
Notice when you’re explaining someone’s behavior by their character instead of their situation.
- When Generous Interpretation Remember The Iceberg
You’re reacting to a sliver of their behavior with no view of the pressures behind it.
Remember what you can’t see
- When Representativeness Heuristic Stereotyping Awareness
Check whether a judgment about a person is based on their actual behavior or on resemblance to a type.
Audit person-judgments for prototype substitution
- Generous Interpretation Under Stress
Generous interpretation means defaulting to the most charitable plausible explanation for what someone did — assuming circumstance or misunderstanding before assuming bad character. It’s hard because of the fundamental attribution error: we reliably explain others’ behavior by their character while excusing our own by our circumstances. That asymmetry is one of the better-documented findings in social psychology, and correcting for it defuses a large share of avoidable conflict.
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