Coaching practices for The Missing Them Comes in Waves That Physically Knock the Wind Out of Me and When One Crests I Just Need to Get Through the Next Few Minutes Without Drowning Not to Make it Stop Just to Ride it Out

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• The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
• When a wave of anger or panic hits, it feels like it’ll swallow me whole if I don’t do something right now
• When a craving hits it feels like it’ll just keep building and building until I cave
• I know in my head that they’re gone, but it still hasn’t landed
• When it grips me it feels like this is the time it won’t stop

Practices that may help

1. Havening to soften acute grief activation
   Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
2. Riding the emotion wave with anicca awareness
   When a strong emotion hits, track it through its full arc — notice it peak and fall without fleeing or amplifying.
   Anicca: Working Practically with Impermanence
3. Ride the wave to its peak and down
   Watch the urge rise, crest, and fall without acting — like a wave you are surfing.
   Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving
4. Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
   Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
5. Know the panic arc before the next attack
   A panic attack peaks within 10 minutes and always subsides — not because you controlled it, but because the physiology is time-limited.
   Panic Surfing
6. Imagine the absence of someone you love
   Briefly picture life without a person you love, then return to their actual presence.
   Negative Visualization, the Stoic Practice
7. Surf the urge to avoid instead of obeying it
   Treat the avoidance impulse as a wave to observe and outlast, not a command to obey.
   Embracing Discomfort: Turning Resistance Into Growth
8. The physiological sigh
   A double inhale through the nose then a long exhale to reset an overwhelmed state.
   Breathwork for Energy
9. Understand the anatomy of an urge
   Learn that urges have a beginning, a peak, and an end — and that acting on or fighting them changes the arc.
   Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
10. Anchor in the physical present during an emotional peak
    Use a physical anchor — your breath, your feet on the floor, a physical object — to stay in the present moment while the wave crests.
    The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical

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