Coaching practices for I Can Only Handle the Scary Situation If I've Got My Little Crutch the Friend I Bring the Pill in My Pocket the Exit I Keep Mapped and I'm Starting to See That Leaning on it is Exactly Why the Fear Never Fully Lets Go Because Some Part of Me Credits the Crutch Not Me for Surviving
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- I can only handle the scary situation if I’ve got my little crutch
- I only get through hard moments by clutching my little crutches
- I can get through the scary thing now, but only with my little crutches
- I can only do certain things if a particular person comes with me
- Every time I get through a feared situation I credit the crutch
Practices that may help
- Gradually drop safety behaviors
Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical - Run exposures without safety behaviors
Do induction exercises while deliberately leaving out the coping props you normally rely on.
Interoceptive Exposure for Panic - Eliminate safety behaviors
Identify and drop the subtle actions that reduce anxiety but prevent learning you don’t need them.
Exposure Therapy: Facing Fears to Shrink Them - Fade reliance on a support person
Gradually enter feared situations with decreasing support from a person who has been a source of safety.
Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical - Run a disconfirmation experiment without the safety behavior
Enter the feared situation without the safety behavior and observe what actually happens.
Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical - Drop the safety behaviors
Let go of the small avoidances and crutches you use to feel "safe" from anxiety.
The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical - Dropping Safety Behaviors Within Experiments
Remove the subtle avoidance strategies (safety behaviors) that prevent experiments from genuinely testing the belief.
Behavioral Experiments: Testing Beliefs in the Real World - Stay in the situation until anxiety drops
Remain in the feared situation long enough for distress to fall — leaving early teaches the wrong lesson.
The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical - Prolonged exposure: stay until distress drops
Enter the feared situation and stay until anxiety peaks and then noticeably decreases on its own.
Exposure Therapy: Facing Fears to Shrink Them - Reframe from "preventing catastrophe" to "coping with discomfort"
Shift the goal of entering feared situations from preventing disaster to practicing tolerance.
Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Fade Anxiety Crutches
Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
Gradually drop safety behaviors
- When Exposure Therapy Drop Safety Behaviors
Identify and drop the subtle actions that reduce anxiety but prevent learning you don’t need them.
Eliminate safety behaviors
- Agoraphobia Support Person
Gradually enter feared situations with decreasing support from a person who has been a source of safety.
Fade reliance on a support person
- Dropping Safety Behaviors Anxiety
Safety behaviors are actions people take to prevent feared outcomes during anxious situations — sitting to avoid fainting, avoiding eye contact to seem less socially threatening, checking repeatedly to prevent disaster. Paul Salkovskis identified them as a central maintenance mechanism: they prevent the person from learning that the feared outcome would not have happened anyway. Fading them — systematically reducing their use — is an evidence-supported component of CBT for anxiety disorders, with the strongest evidence in panic and social anxiety.
- Exposure Without Safety Behavior
Enter the feared situation without the safety behavior and observe what actually happens.
Run a disconfirmation experiment without the safety behavior
- Helping 6 Year Old With Anxiety Disorder To Cope After My Visits End
Gradually reduce how often you seek reassurance from others that the feared thing won't happen.
Fade reassurance-seeking
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