Coaching practices for I Know in the Abstract That I Have Blind Spots but I Couldn't Name a Single One I Want to Actually Lay Out How I Think I Come Across Against How a Few People Who Know Me Really Experience Me and See Where Those Two Pictures Don't Match
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I know in the abstract that I have blind spots, but I couldn’t name a single one
- I can spot everyone else’s blind spots instantly
- Whenever I ask people how I’m doing I just get vague, polite reassurance
- People who know me keep pointing at some pattern in me that I genuinely can’t see in myself
- I’m sure everyone is cataloguing my flaws, but if I’m honest I couldn’t tell you a single thing about what the person next to me on the train was wearing or whether they messed anything up
Practices that may help
- Map your Johari Window with a trusted person
Identify what is open, hidden, and blind in a specific relationship or role.
The Johari Window - Question your own objectivity explicitly
Ask yourself what forces might be shaping your perception before assuming you see things clearly.
Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are - Actively seek feedback on your blind spots
Ask specifically for what others see that you might not — with enough specificity to get honest answers.
The Johari Window - The Enneagram blind-spot inquiry
Use your type’s characteristic blind spot as a daily question: "How might I be doing this without knowing it?"
The Enneagram - Recall how little you notice others
Inventory how often you notice strangers’ flaws — then apply that rate to yourself.
The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching - Use the Johari Window in team settings
Apply the window at the team level to improve shared understanding and reduce inter-member blind spots.
The Johari Window - Look for what your map omits
Every model leaves something out — deliberately search for your blind spots.
The Map Is Not the Territory - Name your model explicitly
Make the map visible by articulating your current model of the situation in plain language.
The Map Is Not the Territory - Expand the Unknown quadrant through challenge and experience
Try things outside your current self-concept — undiscovered capacity lives in the Unknown quadrant.
The Johari Window - Draw or sketch the inner system visually
Put parts and their relationships on paper — who is close to whom, who holds whom at arm’s length.
IFS Parts Mapping, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Cognitive Blind Spots
Ask yourself what forces might be shaping your perception before assuming you see things clearly.
Question your own objectivity explicitly
- Enneagram Blind Spot
Use your type’s characteristic blind spot as a daily question: "How might I be doing this without knowing it?"
The Enneagram blind-spot inquiry
- How To Find Your Blind Spots
Ask specifically for what others see that you might not — with enough specificity to get honest answers.
Actively seek feedback on your blind spots
- Johari Blind Area
The Johari Window, developed by Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingham, is a model of self-knowledge and interpersonal disclosure organized into four quadrants: Open (known to self and others), Blind (known to others, not to self), Hidden (known to self, not to others), and Unknown (known to neither). It is used in coaching and organizational development to guide feedback exchange and self-disclosure, expanding the Open area and reducing blind spots.
- When Naive Realism Question Your Objectivity
Ask yourself what forces might be shaping your perception before assuming you see things clearly.
- Bias Blind Spot
Ask yourself what forces might be shaping your perception before assuming you see things clearly.
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