Coaching practices for My People Route Every Little Decision Up to Me Even Ones Squarely in Their Own Authority and I'm Realizing That by Always Having the Answer Ready I've Trained Them to Stop Trusting Their Own So the Dependency I Resent is One I Built

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• My people route every little decision up to me, even ones squarely in their own authority
• Everything still routes through me
• I put someone on the hook for the result but kept all the real decisions and the budget myself, so now they have to come ask my permission for every little thing and the whole thing crawls and stalls.
• Everyone brings their problems to me to solve, I jump in and fix each one, and now I’m the bottleneck for everything while my people never grow
• My people keep stopping to ask permission for small things they’re plainly capable of deciding, and every one of those check-ins slows everything down and quietly tells them I don’t trust them

Practices that may help

1. Break the advice-dependency loop
   When people come to you for every decision, it signals advice-giving is making them less capable, not more.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
2. Build people’s autonomy and capability
   The aim is people who need you less over time, not more.
   Servant Leadership, Made Practical
3. Transfer authority with the responsibility
   Give people the decision rights and resources the task actually requires.
   Effective Delegation, Made Practical
4. Give the work back without abandoning people
   Resist taking ownership of problems that belong to the people facing the adaptive challenge.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
5. Clarify what people can decide without asking
   Define the fence: what decisions can anyone on the team make without checking in?
   Delegation Levels, Made Practical
6. Stay curious one beat longer before advising
   Resist the urge to give the answer for one more question — ask what they think first.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
7. Decentralized command
   Push decisions to the people closest to the problem, bounded by a clear commander’s intent.
   Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
8. Give age-appropriate autonomy within non-negotiable limits
   Let the child choose within the boundaries you set — the choice builds competence; the boundary provides safety.
   Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
9. Push recommendations up, not problems
   Require reports to bring a recommendation alongside any problem — it’s a delegation practice, not just a time-saver.
   Delegation Levels, Made Practical
10. Take extreme ownership
    When the team fails, the leader looks first at what the leader did or failed to do.
    Extreme Ownership, Made Practical

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