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- I’ve been so clenched and grim for so long that I can’t remember the last time I really lost it laughing
- I can’t remember the last time I really laughed or did something just for the fun of it
- I’ve become so fused with the anxiety that I can’t get any distance from it
- I come across as so buttoned-up and serious that people stay a little stiff around me, and I want to lighten it by laughing at myself
- When my body starts to tremble or shake or wants to move, I instantly clamp down and hold it in because it feels embarrassing or out of control
Practices that may help
- Genuine laughter as a physical stress release
Real laughter — not polite laughter — produces physical discharge and signals safety.
The Stress Response Cycle: How to Discharge Stress, Not Just Remove the Stressor - Use genuine play or laughter as a fast ventral on-ramp
Play and laughter are among the fastest physiological routes into the safe-and-social state.
Ventral Vagal Activation: Accessing the Safe-and-Social State - Use humor as a therapeutic distance-maker
Practice narrating your anxiety to an imaginary sympathetic audience — make it funny.
Logotherapy: Paradoxical Intention - Use self-deprecating humor — selectively
Laughing at yourself in a low-stakes moment signals security and reduces social distance.
The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical - Allow the body to complete its response
Make room for spontaneous shaking, trembling, deep breaths, or movement that wants to happen.
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained - Progressive relaxation: release physical tension systematically
Tense and release each muscle group in sequence to clear the physical tension that emotional arousal creates.
TIPP: DBT’s Crisis Skill for Rapidly Lowering Emotional Intensity - Relax and release stuck energy
When emotion grips, consciously relax and let the energy move through instead of clamping down.
The Untethered Soul, In Practice - Allow facilitator bodywork during intense physical activation
Targeted physical contact by a trained sitter helps discharge trapped body tension that the breath activates.
Holotropic Breathwork, Made Practical - Progressive muscle relaxation — using tension to find release
Systematically tense each muscle group for 5–10 seconds, then release, to identify and dissolve chronic tension your nervous system has stopped noticing.
The Relaxation Body-Mind, Made Practical - The core tense-and-release cycle
Tense one muscle group for several seconds, then release fully and notice the contrast.
Progressive Muscle Relaxation, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How Laughter Reduces Cortisol
Real laughter — not polite laughter — produces physical discharge and signals safety.
Genuine laughter as a physical stress release
- Somatic Release
Somatic Experiencing, developed by Peter Levine, proposes that overwhelming experience leaves incomplete survival energy "stuck" in the body, and that gently completing and discharging that activation — in small, titrated doses, moving between activation and calm (pendulation) — helps the nervous system settle. The body-awareness skills it teaches are low-risk and increasingly studied, but the evidence base is still emerging and the "stored energy" model is a clinical theory, not established physiology. These are self-regulation skills; trauma work belongs with a trained professional.
- When Qigong Qigong Shaking
Gentle full-body shaking releases chronic muscular tension held in postural muscles and engages the vibration-based stress-release mechanism.
Qigong shaking practice
- Benign Violation Humor
Laughing at yourself in a low-stakes moment signals security and reduces social distance.
Use self-deprecating humor — selectively
- Body Mind Tension Loop
Systematically move attention through the body, noticing sensations without trying to change them.
The body scan
- Breathing With Muscle Relaxation
Tense on the inhale, release on a slow exhale, to stack a breathing lever onto the muscle work.
Coordinate tensing and releasing with the breath
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