Coaching practices for When to Trust Someone
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I won’t hand anyone real responsibility until they’ve completely proven themselves first
- With new people I try to fast-forward to being close
- I keep everything at work behind a polished, guarded front
- I say "I’ll send that over" or "I’ll get to it" and then a bunch of those little things quietly slip my mind
- When I’m handed something past what I actually know, I nod and act like I’ve got it rather than admit the gap, then scramble in secret to cover
Practices that may help
- Extend trust deliberately to invite it
Trust others first, in bounded ways, before they have earned every dimension — it is how trust is built.
The Trust Triangle - Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages
Trust compounds over time — start with technical credibility and expand into intimacy as it is earned.
The Trust Equation, Made Practical - Lower your guard to raise the intimacy score
Sharing something real about yourself makes others feel safer sharing something real with you.
The Trust Equation, Made Practical - Build reliability through small, visible commitments
Reliability is built not by big promises but by flawlessly keeping small, everyday ones.
The Trust Equation, Made Practical - Be transparent about your competence limits
Name what you can do, what you can’t, and what you’ll need to learn — before you are found out.
The Trust Triangle - Invest in the relationship before you need it
Build relational credit through reliability and initiative, not charm or performance alone.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Build reliability by making smaller, keepable promises
Under-promise consistently, then exceed rather than over-promise and fall short.
The Trust Triangle - Signal credibility without claiming it
Let your knowledge show through questions and specifics, not through declarations of expertise.
The Trust Equation, Made Practical - Demonstrate care through visible acts in the other person’s interest
Show that your interests and theirs are genuinely aligned — not only when it’s convenient.
The Trust Triangle - Give away the answer even when it costs you
When the right answer reduces your value or authority, give it anyway — that act is the trust signal.
The Trust Equation, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Shall I Trust My Recruiter
Reliability is built not by big promises but by flawlessly keeping small, everyday ones.
Build reliability through small, visible commitments
- Credibility And Trust
Let your knowledge show through questions and specifics, not through declarations of expertise.
Signal credibility without claiming it
- Earn Trust From Boss
Build relational credit through reliability and initiative, not charm or performance alone.
Invest in the relationship before you need it
- Recognition That Builds Trust
Sharing something real about yourself makes others feel safer sharing something real with you.
Lower your guard to raise the intimacy score
- The Trust Equation As A Caregiver
The Trust Equation (Maister, Green, and Galford) holds that trustworthiness = (credibility + reliability + intimacy) ÷ self-orientation. The model is a practitioner framework rather than a rigorously tested theory, but it usefully names the levers — especially self-orientation, which is the single biggest trust-killer most leaders overlook.
- The Trust Equation At Work
The Trust Equation (Maister, Green, and Galford) holds that trustworthiness = (credibility + reliability + intimacy) ÷ self-orientation. The model is a practitioner framework rather than a rigorously tested theory, but it usefully names the levers — especially self-orientation, which is the single biggest trust-killer most leaders overlook.
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