Coaching practices for Why Am I Pursuing This Goal
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’ve got this whole list of goals and I honestly can’t tell anymore which ones are mine versus which I took on to look right or quiet the guilt
- I want the thing badly enough, but the way I’ve picked to get there feels like a chore that has nothing to do with me
- The moment a goal gets hard I lose all sense of why I’m even doing it
- I’m years into chasing something I committed to as a different version of myself, and it doesn’t fit who I am now
- I keep setting goals I think I’m supposed to want, and the moment they get hard I just quit
Practices that may help
- Audit why you are pursuing each goal
Check whether each goal is driven by interest and values or by guilt and external pressure.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Strengthen goal commitment through the means you choose
The path you commit to shapes how strongly you pursue the goal — different means produce different levels of dedication.
Goal Systems Theory: How Goals Work Together (and Against Each Other) - Anchor each goal to a named, personal value
Make the goal an expression of a specific value so it stays motivating when difficulty peaks.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Review goal-self fit at regular intervals
As you grow, some formerly self-concordant goals become misaligned — review them deliberately.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Capture compelling reasons why
Write the emotional and practical reasons this result matters — the "why" that will sustain action under resistance.
Tony Robbins’ Rapid Planning Method (RPM), Made Practical - Protect your sense of autonomy while pursuing the goal
Keep the goal yours even when a coach, boss, or partner is involved in it.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Pursue mastery as an asymptote
Treat getting better as the goal — knowing you never fully arrive.
Drive: Autonomy, Mastery, and Purpose - Celebrate growth, not just goal attainment
Recognize progress in who you are becoming, not only whether you hit the number.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Make the endpoint concrete and countable
A clearly defined finish line triggers the goal gradient; a vague goal cannot activate proximity acceleration.
The Goal Gradient Effect: Why Getting Closer Makes You Faster - Relevant — anchor it to what you actually want
Confirm the goal serves a value or larger aim you genuinely hold.
SMART Goals That Actually Move
Related concerns
- Autonomy In Goal Pursuit
Keep the goal yours even when a coach, boss, or partner is involved in it.
Protect your sense of autonomy while pursuing the goal
- When Smart Goals Make It Relevant
Confirm the goal serves a value or larger aim you genuinely hold.
Relevant — anchor it to what you actually want
- Why Does My Goal Matter
Make the goal an expression of a specific value so it stays motivating when difficulty peaks.
Anchor each goal to a named, personal value
- Countable Goals Motivation
Check whether each goal is driven by interest and values or by guilt and external pressure.
Audit why you are pursuing each goal
- Motivation For Goals
Make the goal an expression of a specific value so it stays motivating when difficulty peaks.
- Self Concordant Goals As A Parent
Self-concordant goals, from Kennon Sheldon, are goals you pursue because they express who you genuinely are or what truly interests you — not because of guilt, social pressure, or external reward. Research finds that self-concordant goals are pursued with more sustained effort and produce greater well-being when achieved, even when the objective difficulty is held constant.
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