Coaching practices for Why Am I So Quick to Anger with My Kids
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- We keep having the exact same blow-up over the exact same thing, and I’m starting to wonder if my kid genuinely doesn’t know how to handle that moment any other way
- When my child gets upset my whole reflex is to make it stop as fast as possible
- When my kid is angry and lashing out I can’t tell where the line is
- When my kid acts out I lose it
- The second my kid starts melting down I feel my own chest tighten and my patience snap, and I react from that heat
Practices that may help
- Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Map your anger triggers
Build a personal inventory of the situations, people, and thoughts that reliably ignite your anger.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Plan behavior management strategies in advance
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
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Manage your own emotional state before responding
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Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
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When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
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All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
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