Coaching practices for Why Do I Feel Like I'm Not Good Enough Am I Overreacting

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• There’s this constant background sense of not being enough, but I can’t even tell what kind
• I keep telling myself "I’m great at this, I’ve got this" right before the thing I’m scared of, and it somehow makes me feel worse
• My life looks fine until I open my phone and see what everyone else has, and then it instantly feels not enough
• My own life felt fine until I saw what someone else has
• I keep telling myself I’ll finally feel enough once I lose the weight, hit the goal, get the approval

Practices that may help

1. Map your actual, ideal, and ought selves
   Write separate descriptions of who you are, who you want to be, and who you feel you must be — then compare them.
   Self-Discrepancy Theory, Made Practical
2. Use affirmation of values, not affirmation of ability
   Affirm that you are a good person with important values — not that you are good at the specific thing you are anxious about.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
3. Audit your comparison set
   Identify who and what you’re comparing yourself to — and whether that comparison is serving you.
   The Mindset of Enough: Contentment Without Complacency
4. Reframe the comparisons that move your bar
   Enough is destroyed by comparison — manage who and what you measure against.
   The Enough Mindset, Made Practical
5. Claim worthiness now
   Believe you are worthy of love and belonging as you are — not after you fix yourself.
   The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
6. Observe the self with mindful distance
   Watch self-critical and self-inflating thoughts with curiosity rather than fusion — you are not what you think about yourself.
   Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem
7. Use value-based self-affirmation before threatening evaluations
   Before a threatening evaluation, write for 10 minutes about a value that matters to you — unrelated to the domain being evaluated.
   Power Posing Revisited
8. Write about a value that matters to you
   Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
9. Separate feelings from facts
   Treat "I feel incompetent" as a feeling to examine, not a fact to act on.
   Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Made Practical
10. Audit your actual ratio periodically
    Estimate your recent positive-to-negative ratio to get an honest read on where you actually are.
    The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle

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