Coaching practices for Why Does My Child Love Loud Scary Noises

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  • Something scared my child
  • My kid is full of wild physical energy and I tend to shut down the wrestling and chasing because I’m afraid it’ll spin out of control
  • My kid has started hiding mistakes and bracing like they’re in trouble before I’ve even said anything, and I think it’s because my first reaction to a spill or a broken thing is always the accusation
  • I keep working on teaching my child to self-regulate, but the same things tip them over every time
  • Loud rooms, certain textures, bright light have always set me on edge, and I think the sessions might be shifting that

Practices that may help

  1. Name it to tame it: tell the story of the big feeling
    Help the child narrate what happened and how it felt — storytelling is brain integration.
    The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
  2. Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
    Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  3. Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
    Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
    The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
  4. Arrange the environment to support Green Zone states
    Predictable schedules, sensory comfort, and low transition stress make Green more accessible.
    Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
  5. Track and communicate sensory sensitivity changes during SSP
    Monitoring sensory reactivity across sessions gives the clinician the data to pace the protocol safely.
    The Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP): What It Is and What the Evidence Shows
  6. Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
    Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  7. Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
    Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
    Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
  8. Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
    Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
    Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
  9. Refuse to energize negative behavior
    Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  10. Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
    Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
    The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)

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