Coaching practices for Worst Case Prevent Repair

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Even after we patch things up, every new conflict still feels like it could be the one that ends us
• I patch the thing that broke right now and move on, and every fix I reach for is basically “try to be more careful next time”
• I keep waiting until the argument's over to make things right, and by then the damage is done
• After we fight we just let it sit for days with neither of us reaching out, and the hurt quietly piles up until I start reading even neutral things they do as another little jab
• I’ve started treating every fight we have as proof that something’s broken between us, and because we never really circle back to mend them afterward, each unfinished one chips away at all the good we’ve built

Practices that may help

1. Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships
   A repair attempt is any move -- humor, an apology, a softened tone, a bid to take a break -- that tries to lower conflict tension before it spirals. John Gottman's research found that whether couples successfully made and accepted repair attempts was a key marker separating stable from distressed couples. It is not avoiding conflict that matters most; it is the ability to repair within it.
2. Rupture and Repair
   Ruptures — the inevitable misattunements, conflicts, and disconnections in any close relationship — are normal and unavoidable; what builds security is reliable repair afterward. Research from infant still-face studies, couples work, and psychotherapy all converges on the same finding: relationships are not made secure by avoiding rupture but by the predictable experience that disconnection can be named and reconnected.
3. Let repeated repair build earned security
   Each successful repair teaches "we can break and come back" — which is what makes a relationship feel safe.
   Rupture and Repair
4. Design the fix to prevent recurrence, not just to recover from this instance
   Ensure the root-cause fix eliminates the cause permanently, not just this occurrence.
   The Five Whys
5. Make small repairs during conflict -- not only big apologies after
   A touch, a softer tone, a brief I love you mid-argument is repair -- use it.
   Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships
6. Repair quickly and thoroughly
   Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
7. Treat conflict as maintenance, not maintenance failure
   Repair well and quickly — because how you end conflict matters more than how you conduct it.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
8. Notice the rupture early
   Catch the moment of disconnection — the withdrawal, the sharp tone, the wall — before it hardens.
   Rupture and Repair
9. Repair explicitly after each cycle episode
   Every cycle episode needs a deliberate closing repair — not just the fight ending.
   The Pursuer-Withdrawer Cycle, Explained
10. Accept imperfect repair attempts
    Reject a clumsy repair attempt and you teach your partner to stop trying.
    Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships

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