Coaching practices for Zen Practice Zazen and Beyond After a Loss

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  • Something I built my life around has ended
  • On the cushion I can find that open, present quality, but the instant I stand up it evaporates
  • My calm only lasts as long as the cushion
  • Every time I sit, the whole session turns into a fight with my back and knees
  • Every time I try to sit I end up fidgeting and aching, or I lock myself rigid and grit through it

Practices that may help

  1. Reframing loss as transformation
    When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
    Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift
  2. Zen Practice (Zazen and Beyond)
    Zen centers on zazen — seated meditation — in two main forms: shikantaza ("just sitting" in open awareness) and koan practice (sustained inquiry into a paradoxical question). Alongside these sits "beginner’s mind," the attitude of meeting experience without preconception. These are traditional contemplative practices; some mechanisms overlap with studied attention training, but Zen’s specific aims and claims are largely experiential rather than clinically validated.
  3. Extending shikantaza to daily activity
    Bring the same non-grasping, present awareness from formal sitting into ordinary tasks.
    Shikantaza: Just Sitting
  4. Work as practice (samu)
    Bring full, wholehearted attention to ordinary tasks, treating activity itself as meditation.
    Zen Practice (Zazen and Beyond)
  5. Grounding in posture: zazen as the foundation
    Let the body be upright, stable, and settled before everything else.
    Shikantaza: Just Sitting
  6. Zazen posture and breath
    Establish a stable, upright seated posture and let the breath settle as the ground of practice.
    Zen Practice (Zazen and Beyond)
  7. Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift
    Zhuangzi uses humour, paradox, and vivid thought experiments to loosen the grip of fixed viewpoints — arguing that most suffering comes from rigidly inhabiting a single perspective. The practical work is developing the capacity to step back into a larger frame, hold multiple views simultaneously, and respond to circumstances with flexibility rather than attachment to how things "should" be.
  8. Shikantaza (just sitting)
    Sit in open, objectless awareness — not focusing on anything, not following anything.
    Zen Practice (Zazen and Beyond)
  9. Practicing with a sangha (community sitting)
    Sit with others regularly — group practice stabilizes individual practice in ways solitude cannot.
    Shikantaza: Just Sitting
  10. Non-grasping awareness: letting arise and pass
    Watch thoughts, sensations, and emotions arise and dissolve without grabbing or pushing.
    Shikantaza: Just Sitting

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