Coaching practices for Zones of Regulation Leah Kuypers During Conflict
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The second things get tense I snap into the same move every time without choosing it
- My child can tell me they’re upset but then has no idea what to actually do about it
- When my child melts down and I ask what’s wrong, they genuinely can’t tell me
- I worry I’ve accidentally taught my child that only being calm and happy is acceptable, because now they hide it or insist they’re "fine" when they’re clearly upset
- I keep telling my child to calm down while I’m clearly losing it myself, and I can feel how hollow that is
Practices that may help
- Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
The Zones of Regulation is a curriculum developed by Leah Kuypers that organizes all emotional and sensory states into four color-coded zones, teaching children to identify their current state and use tools to self-regulate. Evidence is primarily observational and clinical — formal RCTs are limited — but the framework is widely used in occupational therapy and special education with reported improvements in self-regulation and social awareness. - Identify your default conflict mode
Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Build each child’s personalized regulation toolbox
Each child needs their own set of tools matched to each zone.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Teach the four zones and what each one feels like
Give children a shared map of internal states before asking them to regulate.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Teach that Green is the goal, not the only acceptable zone
All zones are normal; the goal is knowing which zone a situation calls for and how to get there.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Co-regulate by naming your own zone first
A parent who models zone awareness is a more effective co-regulator than one who only monitors the child.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Recognize when to shift modes mid-conflict
The mode that’s right at the start of a conversation may not be right ten minutes in.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Arrange the environment to support Green Zone states
Predictable schedules, sensory comfort, and low transition stress make Green more accessible.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Monitor zone status during competition and intervene early
Develop the habit of checking your emotional state at key points during competition and micro-regulating back toward zone.
The Zone of Optimal Functioning: Hanin’s IZOF Model - Catch co-dysregulation before it spirals
Two activated nervous systems feed each other — notice the loop and have one person step out.
Co-Regulation: Borrowing Calm From Another Nervous System
Related concerns
- Co Regulation Zones
The Zones of Regulation is a curriculum developed by Leah Kuypers that organizes all emotional and sensory states into four color-coded zones, teaching children to identify their current state and use tools to self-regulate. Evidence is primarily observational and clinical — formal RCTs are limited — but the framework is widely used in occupational therapy and special education with reported improvements in self-regulation and social awareness.
- Barry Zimmerman Self Regulation
Self-regulated learning (SRL), developed by Barry Zimmerman, is the process of setting goals, selecting strategies, monitoring progress, and adjusting based on feedback — applied to your own learning rather than waiting for external direction. Meta-analyses find consistent positive effects of SRL interventions on academic performance, with the largest benefits for students who start with weakest self-regulatory skills.
- Four Zones Of Regulation
The Zones of Regulation is a curriculum developed by Leah Kuypers that organizes all emotional and sensory states into four color-coded zones, teaching children to identify their current state and use tools to self-regulate. Evidence is primarily observational and clinical — formal RCTs are limited — but the framework is widely used in occupational therapy and special education with reported improvements in self-regulation and social awareness.
- Teach Zones Of Regulation
The Zones of Regulation is a curriculum developed by Leah Kuypers that organizes all emotional and sensory states into four color-coded zones, teaching children to identify their current state and use tools to self-regulate. Evidence is primarily observational and clinical — formal RCTs are limited — but the framework is widely used in occupational therapy and special education with reported improvements in self-regulation and social awareness.
- Zone Check In Children
Asking "what zone are you in?" regularly makes zone awareness automatic rather than crisis-only.
Build zone check-ins into the daily routine
- Zones Of Regulation Leah Kuypers After A Loss
The Zones of Regulation is a curriculum developed by Leah Kuypers that organizes all emotional and sensory states into four color-coded zones, teaching children to identify their current state and use tools to self-regulate. Evidence is primarily observational and clinical — formal RCTs are limited — but the framework is widely used in occupational therapy and special education with reported improvements in self-regulation and social awareness.
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