Accumulate positive experiences
Deliberately do things that generate positive emotion — building a reservoir that distress draws from.
Why it works
Positive emotions do more than feel good: they broaden attention and thinking, build psychological resources over time, and counteract the narrowing and depletion that negative emotion brings. In DBT, accumulating positives builds an emotional buffer — the more you draw from, the less likely that a single bad event will drain you to zero.
How to do it
- Short-term: each day, do at least one thing you genuinely enjoy, without multitasking through it.
- Long-term: work toward goals that reflect your values — purpose is a slow-burning positive accumulator.
- Build a list of activities that reliably produce positive emotion for you, not what should work.
- Schedule them — positive events do not spontaneously fill a life; they are made to happen.
Evidence
Barbara Fredrickson’s broaden-and-build theory proposes that positive emotions expand attention and build psychological resources. The theory has observational and experimental support, though some specific claims are under ongoing scrutiny. A controlled experiment by Fredrickson and Branigan directly demonstrates the broadening effect — induced positive emotion measurably widened the scope of attention and thought-action repertoires. (observational)
Broaden-and-build is well cited but some aspects (e.g., specific positivity ratios) have failed to replicate. The core idea — that positive emotion builds resilience — has reasonable support.
Sources
- Fredrickson (2001), "The role of positive emotions in positive psychology," American Psychologist
- Fredrickson, B. L. (2001). The role of positive emotions in positive psychology: The broaden-and-build theory of positive emotions. American Psychologist, 56(3), 218–226.
- Fredrickson, B. L., & Branigan, C. (2005). Positive emotions broaden the scope of attention and thought-action repertoires. Cognition and Emotion, 19(3), 313–332.
Common mistake
Doing enjoyable things while simultaneously feeling guilty for not being more productive — the divided attention prevents positive emotion from actually registering.
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More practices for DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
- Understand the function of the emotion
Every emotion evolved because it does something useful — learn what yours is trying to do.
- Reduce emotional vulnerability (PLEASE)
Lower your baseline reactivity by protecting sleep, eating, exercise, and physical health.
- Opposite action
When an emotion doesn’t fit the facts or is unhelpful, act opposite to its urge — fully and wholeheartedly.
- Describe emotions nonjudgmentally
Narrate what you feel in plain, factual language — dropping "I’m terrible for feeling this."
- Mindfulness of the current emotion
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
- Check the facts
Before acting on an emotion, ask whether your interpretation of the situation actually fits the evidence.
- Build mastery
Do one thing every day that is challenging and leaves you feeling capable.
Related concepts
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical
The four DBT skill sets, the mechanisms behind them, and an honest read on the evidence
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Made Practical
The core techniques, the mechanisms, and where the evidence is strongest
- Self-Compassion, Made Practical
The three components, the mechanisms, and where the evidence is strong