Coaching practices for 5 Year Old Son is Extremely Stressed
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep working on teaching my child to self-regulate, but the same things tip them over every time
- My kid is full of wild physical energy and I tend to shut down the wrestling and chasing because I’m afraid it’ll spin out of control
- The storm has finally passed and my kid is calm again, and I keep wanting to either just move on or fix the situation for them
- My child can tell me they’re upset but then has no idea what to actually do about it
- My little one gets so wound up or so shut down that talking goes nowhere
Practices that may help
- Arrange the environment to support Green Zone states
Predictable schedules, sensory comfort, and low transition stress make Green more accessible.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Problem-solve together once the child is calm
After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Build each child’s personalized regulation toolbox
Each child needs their own set of tools matched to each zone.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Use physical movement to shift the nervous system state
When the child is stuck in a heightened state, movement can shift the physiological baseline faster than words.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Teach the four zones and what each one feels like
Give children a shared map of internal states before asking them to regulate.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
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