Coaching practices for Advise on 123 Magic for Hyper or Anxious Kids

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• My child can tell me they’re upset but then has no idea what to actually do about it
• I keep working on teaching my child to self-regulate, but the same things tip them over every time
• I keep trying to reason with my kid right in the middle of the meltdown
• I worry I’ve accidentally taught my child that only being calm and happy is acceptable, because now they hide it or insist they’re "fine" when they’re clearly upset
• My little one gets so wound up or so shut down that talking goes nowhere

Practices that may help

1. Build each child’s personalized regulation toolbox
   Each child needs their own set of tools matched to each zone.
   Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
2. Arrange the environment to support Green Zone states
   Predictable schedules, sensory comfort, and low transition stress make Green more accessible.
   Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
3. Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
   Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
4. Teach that Green is the goal, not the only acceptable zone
   All zones are normal; the goal is knowing which zone a situation calls for and how to get there.
   Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
5. Use physical movement to shift the nervous system state
   When the child is stuck in a heightened state, movement can shift the physiological baseline faster than words.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
6. Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
   The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
7. Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after
   Start the technique at the first sign of anxiety — not once the wave is overwhelming.
   The 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique
8. Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
   Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
9. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
   Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
10. Problem-solve together once the child is calm
    After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
    Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)

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