Coaching practices for What If My Child Has Asthma
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- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- I keep trying to reason with my kid right in the middle of the meltdown
- Every time I put my foot down and insist, my kid blows up worse
- My child can tell me they’re upset but then has no idea what to actually do about it
- My kid blows up over the same things again and again, and I keep calling it defiance or attitude
Practices that may help
- Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse
Adult-imposed solutions can win the battle and lose the war — notice when enforcement is escalating rather than solving.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Build each child’s personalized regulation toolbox
Each child needs their own set of tools matched to each zone.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Use physical movement to shift the nervous system state
When the child is stuck in a heightened state, movement can shift the physiological baseline faster than words.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Build zone check-ins into the daily routine
Asking "what zone are you in?" regularly makes zone awareness automatic rather than crisis-only.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Arrange the environment to support Green Zone states
Predictable schedules, sensory comfort, and low transition stress make Green more accessible.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
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