Coaching practices for Tki Self Assessment

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Tki Self Assessment, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I do these life check-ins alone in my head and then quietly let them slide, and I think if I actually said the low scores out loud to someone who’d remember, I couldn’t just keep ignoring them the way I always do.
• If you asked me to name what I’m actually good at, I’d freeze
• I’ve done a bunch of those fun online personality quizzes and the labels never quite fit or tell me anything useful
• When I try to calm myself I can’t tell if anything’s actually budging
• When I check in on myself it’s always "how did the day go," and the answer always seems to ride on things outside my hands

Practices that may help

1. The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
   The TKI identifies five conflict-handling modes — Competing, Collaborating, Compromising, Avoiding, and Accommodating — along two axes: how assertive you are in pursuing your own needs, and how cooperative you are in addressing others’. No mode is universally best; the skill is knowing which fits the situation and being able to shift deliberately rather than defaulting to one mode under pressure.
2. Use the wheel as a relationship check-in, not just a solo exercise
   Sharing your wheel with a partner, coach, or trusted friend turns a self-assessment into a conversation and a commitment.
   The Wheel of Life, Made Practical
3. Take the VIA survey and identify your signature strengths
   Discover your top five to seven character strengths using the validated VIA survey.
   VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
4. Take a validated Big Five measure
   Use a psychometrically validated instrument — not a viral quiz — to get a reliable trait profile.
   The Big Five Personality Model
5. Use the SUD scale to track progress honestly
   Rate your distress 0–10 before and after each round to make changes visible and guide when to stop.
   EFT Tapping: What It Is, How to Do It, and What the Evidence Shows
6. Reframe passive questions as active questions
   Ask "did I do my best to...?" rather than "how was my...?" — the word "try" changes what the question measures.
   The Morning Questions
7. Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
   Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
8. Design a personal question list that matches your current growth goals
   Build a short list of active questions that track the behaviors most relevant to your life right now — not a fixed template.
   The Morning Questions
9. Separate the act from the self
   Rate your behaviors and outcomes — never your whole self — so one failure cannot indict your entire worth.
   Unconditional Self-Acceptance
10. Map your actual competence across domains
    Explicitly rate your ability in each domain, then check the rating against external evidence.
    The Dunning-Kruger Effect, Understood Clearly

Describe your situation in your own words to search the complete practice library.