Coaching practices for Act Self Criticism Technique

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’d never speak to anyone else the way I speak to myself
• The voice I turn on myself after I mess up is brutal in a way I’d never speak to anyone else
• While I’m actually performing there’s this running commentary telling me I’m blowing it, and I take every word of it as fact in the moment
• The moment I name something I did wrong it spirals
• The critic in my head runs nonstop but it’s all a blur

Practices that may help

1. Replace critic monologue with compassionate self-talk
   Speak to yourself the way you would speak to a close friend in the same situation.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
2. Ahimsa toward the self: replacing self-attack with self-compassion
   Treat yourself after a failure the way you would treat a good friend in the same situation.
   Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
3. Identify your Self 1 interference in real time
   Notice when your inner critic is instructing, judging, or catastrophizing — and name it as Self 1.
   The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
4. Review without self-condemnation — distinguish judgment from condemnation
   Name what you did wrong precisely, without story or self-attack — then close it.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
5. Recognizing Shame and Self-Criticism Patterns
   Name the specific self-critical scripts and their triggers before trying to change them.
   Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
6. Affirm before receiving critical feedback
   Do a brief values reflection before reading a critical evaluation so you can take in the information rather than defend against it.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
7. "Thank you, mind" — defusing the inner critic with friendly acknowledgment
   When a harsh inner critic fires, respond with "Thank you, mind, for trying to protect me."
   Cognitive Defusion (ACT), Made Practical
8. Look honestly at your responses
   Face where you fell short and where you acted well, without spiraling into either.
   The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day
9. Name and externalize the inner critic
   Give the critic a name and treat it as a character, not the truth about you.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
10. Ask for clarity and honest perception
    Before reviewing, pause to ask for the capacity to see honestly rather than defensively.
    The Ignatian Examen: Five Movements of Daily Review

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