Coaching practices for Action Planning as a Parent

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  • There are a few situations that go badly every single time
  • My plans hold up fine until something throws them off
  • Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
  • It’s always the same thing that knocks me off
  • My whole week is just a pile of work tasks, and the parts of me that matter

Practices that may help

  1. Plan behavior management strategies in advance
    Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
    Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
  2. Action Planning
    Action planning — specifying when, where, and how you will execute a goal-directed behavior — is one of the best-supported techniques for closing the intention-behavior gap. Orbell and Sheeran’s research, along with Peter Gollwitzer’s work on implementation intentions, shows that forming specific plans reliably increases behavior over vague intentions alone, with meta-analytic effect sizes in the small-to-medium range.
  3. Plan for obstacles with coping plans
    Anticipate the specific obstacles most likely to block your plan and pre-decide your response to each.
    Action Planning
  4. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
    Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
    Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
  5. Use if–then commitments for predictable barriers
    Pre-plan your response to the specific situations most likely to derail the action.
    Committed Action, Made Practical
  6. Plan from roles and goals, not from tasks
    Before listing tasks, list your key roles this week and name one meaningful goal for each.
    Big Rocks First
  7. Write when, where, and how plans for every behavioral goal
    Specify exactly when, where, and how you will act — not just what you intend to do.
    Action Planning
  8. Review and update action plans at a fixed weekly cadence
    An action plan that is not reviewed weekly becomes stale — regular review keeps the plan matched to current reality.
    Action Planning
  9. Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse
    Adult-imposed solutions can win the battle and lose the war — notice when enforcement is escalating rather than solving.
    Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
  10. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
    Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)

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