Coaching practices for Active Listening During a Big Change
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- While my people are still talking I’m already loading up my reply
- While the other person is still talking I’m already loading up my comeback, barely hearing them
- A big change is coming and I’m so focused on what’s next that I’m treating the last weeks of this chapter as a waiting room
- Someone comes to me upset and I’m already firing off solutions before they’ve finished, and it lands wrong because they just wanted to be heard
- I give people good advice and watch it bounce right off
Practices that may help
- Listen to understand, not to load your response
Most managers listen while mentally composing their reply — real coaching listening is for understanding, not rebuttal-preparation.
The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm - Be Interested: listen and show that you are listening
Attend to the other person’s perspective with genuine curiosity, not just patience.
GIVE: DBT’s Skill for Preserving Relationships During Difficult Conversations - The last chance before a transition
Before a major life change, fully inhabit what is ending, rather than only anticipating what comes next.
The Last Time Meditation - Active Listening, Made Practical
Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically. - Separate the listening phase from the advising phase
Finish understanding before you start problem-solving — and ask which one is wanted.
Reflective Listening: The Carl Rogers Method - Acknowledge what you heard before advancing to advice
A solution offered before the speaker feels heard is usually rejected, even when it is correct.
The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm - Follow the speaker’s thread, not your own
Resist the urge to steer the conversation toward what you find interesting or important.
Reflective Listening: The Carl Rogers Method - Listen charismatically
Make the other person feel they’re the only one in the room — pause before you reply.
The Charisma Myth, Made Practical - Listen deeply before responding
Greenleaf’s servant-leader is "a listener first" — understanding precedes directing.
Servant Leadership, Made Practical - Identify and anticipate upcoming transition windows
Treat approaching life changes as scheduled opportunities for habit installation — plan before the transition, not after.
The Habit Discontinuity Effect
Related concerns
- Active Listening Leadership
Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically.
- Active Listening
Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically.
- Active Listening Skills
Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically.
- Active Listening When Starting Out
Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically.
- Listening Vs Advising
Finish understanding before you start problem-solving — and ask which one is wanted.
Separate the listening phase from the advising phase
- Active Listening Argument
Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically.
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